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Question for gay guys about BUM FUN

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
How often is it a problem deciding who goes "top" and who goes "bottom"?

Most gay guys i know say they are givers, not takers, this includes most of the effeminate guys as well.

Does this cause arguments etc? Or do you simply agree on a rotation system? :confused:

PS not my sort of thing either way in case you get the wrong idea :no:
genuinely interested though.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont like fucking, much prefer getting fucked. Probably my submissivisity :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    RubberSkin wrote: »
    I dont like fucking, much prefer getting fucked. Probably my submissivisity :)

    But am I right that most gay men want to fuck, as opposed to getting fucked, by a considerable majority?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ...why?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Spliffie wrote: »
    But am I right that most gay men want to fuck, as opposed to getting fucked, by a considerable majority?

    In my experience, no. If you go into the chat rooms on gaydar/recon the vast majority wanna get fucked.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The usual options are :

    Top - will only top
    Top versatile - prefers to top but will bottom
    Versatile - happy either way
    Bottom versatile - prefers bottom but will top
    Bottom - will only bottom

    Most people probably fall into the middle three and are, therefore, willing to bottom.

    Of course, the remaining option is that some guys don't partake in any form of anal sex at all.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Teagan wrote: »
    The usual options are :

    Top - will only top
    Top versatile - prefers to top but will bottom
    Versatile - happy either way
    Bottom versatile - prefers bottom but will top
    Bottom - will only bottom.

    Actually it's usually

    Bottom - fuck me
    Bottom versatile - fuck me
    Versatile - fuck me
    Top versatile - fuck me
    Top - ill fuck you if you fuck me

    :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    chortle
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    RubberSkin wrote: »
    Actually it's usually

    Bottom - fuck me
    Bottom versatile - fuck me
    Versatile - fuck me
    Top versatile - fuck me
    Top - ill fuck you if you fuck me

    :D

    This is why I should have gone gay. If only it was a choice thing.., [/slut]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Spliffie wrote: »
    Most gay guys i know say they are givers, not takers, this includes most of the effeminate guys as well.

    As an additional thought, I wonder if they are being truthful? Some guys seem to think that being 'bottom' is unmanly or something and may not admit to it.
    RubberSkin wrote: »
    Actually it's usually

    Bottom - fuck me
    Bottom versatile - fuck me
    Versatile - fuck me
    Top versatile - fuck me
    Top - ill fuck you if you fuck me

    :D

    Awwwwwwww! Bless you. You're such a slut. *hug*

    :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Teagan wrote: »
    As an additional thought, I wonder if they are being truthful? Some guys seem to think that being 'bottom' is unmanly or something and may not admit to it.



    that was my first thought
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In my experience the difference between a giver and a taker is about 6 double vodkas for me :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Evenstar wrote: »
    ...why?

    Because I seek to understand things?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A gentleman with much more experience with me assures me that the bigger the dick the less likely they are to want to use it.

    :chin: might explain why I don't need to take my socks of to count how many times I've fucked someone
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big Gay wrote: »
    A gentleman with much more experience with me assures me that the bigger the dick the less likely they are to want to use it.

    :chin: might explain why I don't need to take my socks of to count how many times I've fucked someone

    That cant be true, otherwise id be getting shagged rotten everyday :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big Gay wrote: »

    :chin: might explain why I don't need to take my socks of to count how many times I've fucked someone

    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big Gay wrote: »
    A gentleman with much more experience with me assures me that the bigger the dick the less likely they are to want to use it.

    This seems quite bizarre, I would have imagined if anything, it would be the other way around...perhaps it's more a question of fit, as opposed to desire?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why do you think having a bigger dick make you more likely to want to take the active role?

    Pure curiosity.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big Gay wrote: »
    Why do you think having a bigger dick make you more likely to want to take the active role?

    Pure curiosity.

    I don't, that would be to confuse cause and effect. If I was informed by an authority on the subject that there is a significant difference in average dick size between those who are "top" and those who are "buttom" I'd merely presume that, on average, the one on top is physically larger in general and more masculine, hence on average, bigger cock. But as I say, this wouldn't be the cause, only - if anything - an effect of the cause.

    I'm curious why it would be the opposite though, unless it was more about the problem of fit rather than desire or preference.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it's more likely to be Sod's law - the gentleman in question was something of a size queen
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Such junk.
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