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Should I ask her?
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This thread might be a waste of time since I can't talk to girls let alone make small talk with them.
There's this lass at work who is a few years younger then me, I'm 26, she's well fit and gorgeous.
I think she came out of a relationship this or last month.
I don't talk to her at all, she only asked me what time it was yesterday and thats all.
Should I ask her out or not? If she says no I'll have to see her every day at work!!
There's this lass at work who is a few years younger then me, I'm 26, she's well fit and gorgeous.
I think she came out of a relationship this or last month.
I don't talk to her at all, she only asked me what time it was yesterday and thats all.
Should I ask her out or not? If she says no I'll have to see her every day at work!!
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You don't even know if you like HER or not, you just think she's pretty.
Good lord.
No I do like HER
but you said you don't know her...
Sweetie, you have to get to know her before you ask her out. Or she will think you are weird and say no x
As for the original question, the only thing I would be wary of is the working together. If you work in close proximity and will come into contact every day, it could be awkward... but really, only if you make it. So if you are able to keep things professional at work, then why not. You never know without trying
Yea, but how is he going to ask her out if he can't even talk to her? Slip her a post-it note under the door? If someone was too awkward to even say a word to me, I don't even want to imagine how awkward the date will be.
It is hard to like someone so much, yet are not sure how to approach them or eventually ask them out in order to get to know them better.
To have that first conversation is crucial, yet as you mention you will try to contact her via Facebook during these holidays, so perhaps this can work online for now?
Dating someone at work can be tough and complicated, yet after getting to know her better, there will hopefully be some kind of indication into how she feels (as well as how you feel) - which will be easier for you to take it from there!
Good luck
As christele says its 'tough and compicated'. And I'm just not going to make anything awkward between us because we see each other every day at work.
You may be surprised how well this works.
Erm .... you're not punching above your weight are you? Are your aspirations with her realistic, considering that you struggle to talk to girls?
I hope you don't feel I have discouraged you by saying "can be tough and complicated"? Every situation is different and it is up to whether you think it is worth it
Good luck :wave:
Oh no don't say that! I now have a vision of her giving me one.
Hi christele. Don't worry you haven't discouraged me. I personally think it will be complicated working at the same company if she rejects me.
It would be better if I didn't work there, then I would send her a message on facebook, maybe with my mobile number, and ask her out for a couple of drinks or for a walk.:)
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I notice she's on Facebook every evening. I don't really want to ask her straight away if she's interested.
So you have facebook stalked her then? :chin:
She clearly doesn't see you as a complete creep because otherwise she'd have blocked you.
I would agree. It's just easier to fuck up the "asking out" process, because you have no previous encounters with the person to back you up in your conversation.
If you have no confidence in yourself, people can sense that and it makes them hesitant or turned off. If you're confident in how you approach her, it won't seem creepy-- it will seem bold and possibly sexy. If you're hesitant and nervous when you ask her-- it will seem creepy and quite possibly even just sad.
How you perceive yourself and how you perceive the situation always shows in your actions and approach. By now, it sounds like she might already be aware that you're interested. If you've Facebook stalked her and said enough awkward "Hi's" and nothing more. Women generally are pretty hyper-sensitive to that kind of thing. I'd recommend either making a really bold move or just backing off to save whatever pride you have left.