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how do you deal with a jealous ex?
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i've recently met a fantastic new man finally someone i get on with really well and have no agruments with i'm really like him and he has said he really likes me, i haven't been this happy in a long time
now the problem is.. my ex who is my best friend has been very jealous about the new man in my life, the same as he did with the last couple of guys who i have dated.. me and my ex broke up in May and it just seems to me like he doesn't want me to be happy
any advice?
now the problem is.. my ex who is my best friend has been very jealous about the new man in my life, the same as he did with the last couple of guys who i have dated.. me and my ex broke up in May and it just seems to me like he doesn't want me to be happy
any advice?
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I would get a new best friend, my hubbi is my best friend but he would'nt be if he was my ex!!! x
I don't know about the background but I agree.
I wouldn't recommend a complete blanket cut off speaking to him. Maybe confronting him. Ask him why he is like this.
Two of my best friends are also my exes. I'm not with one of them because I moved to Canada but the other one I'm not with because he offers me what I want in a friend but not what I want in a lover. It doesn't work for everyone but our relationship has only gotten better since we stopped being together.
I guess what I would do would be to tell him that he either accepts that you're no longer together and lets you move on, or he loses you as a friend. If he still chooses to act like that then he is not worth having as a friend.
Good luck with the new bloke!
i have moved on and found someone that i am really happy with but i dnt want to lose my friend, he's alwys been a big part of my life, being there for me through an illness when we were only 11/12, he's always been there for me and i can't lose him
I suppose if he is being a bit of a dick then what do you do? If he truly was your friend and a good one at that, he would man up and get over it, even if he was jealous, he should make the effort for you.
Truth is sometimes lovers and friends can cause a few issues between then. If it genuinely is that bad, then I think its one or the other, but if you choose to be friends with your ex, then he needs to buck his ideas up and who is to say this wont just happen again and again.