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planning on having sex with the guy I hate what should I do?
should I have sex with him or not if I don't hes gonna threten me
im confused in this totally confused world :crying:
should I have sex with him or not if I don't hes gonna threten me
im confused in this totally confused world :crying:
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You should only do what you want to do and should never be pressured to do something you dont want to. Make a note of the time, date, and what he says to you and show it to the police, also keeping any threatening texts he sends you.
Well todays the night I hope I know what I'm doing.
Telling an adult is hard, but it's the only way to stop this from happening. You do not have to do this.
You dont have to do this
The guy's approach is actually a crime.
you need to get the police involved or tell someone
you shouldn't haft to do anything you dont want to do
dont do it and if you can keep away from him as what you said hes dangerous and he could harm you badly
Really sorry to hear what you're going through As others have rightly said, no man ever has the right to put you in a situation where you feel pressured and threatened into doing something you don't want to do. He would be committing a criminal offense if he forced you to have sex with him.
It's your body, you own it, no one else. In a happy and healthy relationship your partner should respect that. You should never have to do anything that you don't consent to and planning to have sex with someone should be about feeling ready to be intimate and feeling safe with that person.
It doesn't sound like he makes you feel safe or that you are planning this for the right reasons. Please do try and talk to someone about this, if not an adult then a close friend or someone that you trust, maybe a teacher or another family member? You don't have to go through this on your own and there's only so much we can offer you here by way of support.
If you prefer to speak to someone that you don't know then you can call a helpline line like Supportline - they offer confidential emotional support for children and young adults over the phone and by email and their advisors will be friendly and ready to listen to you
Take care of yourself *hug*
You don't sound mature enough to be considering having sex with anyone, particularly someone you hate! Leaving aside that the legal age of consent is 16, if you don't want sex and say so, any physical advances from this guy amount to sexual assault, which is a criminal offense. You really must involve an adult. There really isn't much other advice we can give you ... apart from DON'T DO IT!
And his parents have taken him out for differ today so e said he might do it tomorrow instead and then I got my parents involved I'm going to london for a few days and coming back soon.
How is he not bullying you?? Forcing you to hav sex with him and if you dont then he'll hurt you. Sounds like bullying to me. And being cute is no excuse for it.
Somebody help me out
I'll just tell the lad I'm going out with another lad and I'll even prove it by showing him pictures do you think it would work?
You said he would 'threaten' you. That's bullying.
Bullying is when someone keeps doing or saying things to have power over another person.
Some of the ways they bully other people are by: calling them names, saying or writing nasty things about them, leaving them out of activities, not talking to them, threatening them, making them feel uncomfortable or scared, taking or damaging their things, hitting or kicking them, or making them do things they don't want to do.
My thoughts exactly. Coathanger suggested as much in P&D.
It's the same writing style and general content so :yes:.
16? I don't think so ... :eek2:
From the P&D thread :
If you are 16 and living (and working?) in London, the British education system has failed you horribly. I would ask for a refund!
Hi. You didn't mention your, or his age in your first post. The previous posters were right to show concern.
Hope it all turns out ok!
May I remind you that you directed me to your intro message, where you say you are working with Cookoo Fashion. For a 16 year old in year 11, you come across as very immature and illiterate in some (but not all) of your posts - including some (but not all) messages in this thread. Hence my comment about the school system having failed you. But your style varies from post to post, thread to thread and forum to forum. To the uneducated eye, it might appear that though two or three people are using this account ...