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People who can't leave school days behind
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Argh! Please someone tell me it's only Belfast that supports this weird phenomenon, and that there's hope for the rest of the UK!
Ever bump into people from school you haven't seen in years, and before you open your mouth to say "how's she cuttin boyo?" they're straight out with, "uh huh, so who are you still friendly with from school?"
Hmmm..what, really?
Maybe it's because for me, school was depressingly average with a mix of anxiety issues and heartache, and the feeling I never quite fitted in. The people who always seem to ask me this are the former jocks/rich/popular kids who you'd think would have moved on from school but no! No less than 4 people who I've not seen in six years were desperate to know who I was still in touch with from school.
Are they all keeping count?
I must be a freak because I've made other friends since 2004...
Ever bump into people from school you haven't seen in years, and before you open your mouth to say "how's she cuttin boyo?" they're straight out with, "uh huh, so who are you still friendly with from school?"
Hmmm..what, really?
Maybe it's because for me, school was depressingly average with a mix of anxiety issues and heartache, and the feeling I never quite fitted in. The people who always seem to ask me this are the former jocks/rich/popular kids who you'd think would have moved on from school but no! No less than 4 people who I've not seen in six years were desperate to know who I was still in touch with from school.
Are they all keeping count?
I must be a freak because I've made other friends since 2004...
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Just like old work mates, you might ask if you still see anybody or, in the same field of work etc
And they gloated! I just don't see how they think they've scored a point, the real world moves on.
Did you see the episode of Friends where Rachel goes out with the jock from her high-school, only to discover that he's still just a jock? v.funny
The weird thing is, even though I know it's actually a bit pathetic, and I'm glad I moved away and met new people and had new experiences and all that, the teenager inside me who is still worried that she isn't skinny or pretty or popular enough feels a little insecure and bothered by it, it's totally irrational. When I see their photos on facebook of them all in the same pub we sued to go to ten years ago, I know, rationally, that I wouldn't want to be there. But part of me feels a bit left out anyway. Strange.
Gah.
Then again, I am still in touch with all the people I would have wanted to stay in touch with. So fuck it, I don't care what they think of me anymore.
You're totally right about that. It's silly, I'm happy, self-confident, successful, got a nice friends and a great life now. But at school I felt insecure, unpopular and like an outsider. And the only times I ever feel like that now is when I talk to people I went to school with, or see their interactions on facebook, and realise I'm not included. Even though I don't want to be.
I think this just goes to show that the hideous wounds that are inflicted on you when you are an angsty teenager never quite fade!
Correct, in a way. I have a few people I have these conversations with, but then again I enjoyed school for the most part and made quite a few friends. Some turns out were better friends than others, hindsight is a brilliant thing, and now I can look back at things, I do like to keep the bonds with the good friends I had.
i've been asked too when i've bumped into someone who im in contact with. disappointment soon follows when i answer. i think it's just to find out the gossip like who get preggers etc
Not saying you didnt, but some people did have a good time at school.