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She's bi-curious but my friend
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Oh god... one of my best friends (who I've always had a bit of a crush on) now thinks she is Bi... If I asked her out, and it didn't work, would it fuck up our friendship?
Because I don't want to loose her... but she's just so lovely!
I don't know what to do! I mean... should I even tell her I fancey her?
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Because I don't want to loose her... but she's just so lovely!
I don't know what to do! I mean... should I even tell her I fancey her?
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But one thing... If she has only just started thinking shes bi... going straight into a relationship might be too quick. Its one thing thinking about other girls, another thing actually acting on it. Maybe give her some space and see how things unfold over time.
(edit - sorry posted at same time as Lexi99)
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do it!
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:grump: I hate you Uncle Strubs :grump: Not really...
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Yes, it could very much screw over your relationship.
It's time for the "I value you more as a friend" speech. (which will, of course, not do wonders for you friendship, but can heal)
Assuming that this girl knows you are Bi i would be inclinded to let her take the lead that way she will come to you when she feels ready.
Perhaps a tiny bit of subtle flirting :flirt: from you just to break the ice.
But hand on heart and i know this is not what you want to hear but i think it will end in tears if you pursue it.
Saying that B A i wish you all the luck and happines possible with this x
It is not appropriate to award StrubbleS cool points for that, but I'd award a lot regardless, if you get her
Whatever you decide to do is your choice and I'm sure lots of people will provide great advice, but it'd be a remiss of us not to point out that if there is a significant age gap between yourself and your friend then that could present some real risks or problems for her and yourself.
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But this girl is another friend, in my year but different school, and we have both agreed to a fun relationship
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Thanks, we are going to a party on Saturday It'll be pretty cool.
Oooohhh I've never had a proper girlfriend like this
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Umn, aren't you dating everyone, including on here, except me? I really can't keep up with it.
That's not really fair.
Way to make me feel like a slag. Fuck it I wont go out with her then, I'll just be fucking single and depressed.
I'll end it later.
Niamh, don't listen to him (her?) It was a pretty shit thing to say.
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Finally I've broken away from most of the older guys, and it's nice to be able to do what I want. Not be under their control.
Yes, call me a slag, whatever. I spent years being told what to do. I finally have a choice. I'm like a kid in a candy store.
Exactly dont let one persons view affect what you wanna do!! He clearly has no idea about what your life actually is like so dont let it upset you
Go to the party, have fun, don't get drunk, be home by ten and call your mum if your gona be late xx
:yes: It's your relationship BA; no-one elses.
@The Convincer- Was there really a need mate?
no need. Some times you should keep your own counsel.
I've only got 3 lessons today, and I can make it two, so I wont have to see many people. I'm not in the mood to be socail.
That comment just hit me where it hurts, you know. I have learnt to put up with a lot of shit, about self harm and being "mental" and just the general every day insults, but some things are harder to put a brave face on.
Thanks anyway guys.
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Some people will ALWAYS think the worst, but most people will be fine.
You cant live your life by what a few people think