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Knowing if your cumming (girls)
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Hey
me and my boyfriend have been together for a long while now and we have had sex and been through foreplay and both enjoy it. The problem is is that my boyfriend always says to me i wish you could tell me if you came or when im amoutn to but i dont know myself.. im so confused because it feels amazing and i do get wet but why dont i know myself
please help
xx
me and my boyfriend have been together for a long while now and we have had sex and been through foreplay and both enjoy it. The problem is is that my boyfriend always says to me i wish you could tell me if you came or when im amoutn to but i dont know myself.. im so confused because it feels amazing and i do get wet but why dont i know myself
please help
xx
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One of the best kept secrets is that an orgasm (however it is achieved, if you get my drift) is actually a great cure for curse pains and other cramping pains, including some types of headache . LOL!
If you had come, then youd know about it, because its a very distinctive feeling.
It will happen soon.
If you "came", you had an orgasm. Cum can mean ejaculation in the male sense, and women can get "wet" without having an orgasm. But you'd know if you had really cum/come. To "cum/come" or to have "an orgasm" for a woman are one and the same.
At the risk of making it abundantly clear I don't know what I'm talking about - there's all the hoo-ha about different types of orgasm - how a g-spot orgasm is different from a clitoral one, etcetera
Katralla's right. Doesn't really matter where the stimulation is, the sensation of orgasm is pretty much the same, i.e. you'd know if you've cum! I can't remember exactly when I first had an orgasm during sex, but I wasn't exactly in my first flush of youth. I could achieve orgasm through masterbation and enjoyed sex, but for years I believed that the two things would, for me, be mutually exclusive. Thinking about it, I probably didn't cum during sex until I met my husband. It was second time round for both of us and neither of our ex's were very adventurous in bed, so we made up for lost time, so to speak.
So have I. I tried showing my ex how to pleasure me more but it was a combination of his inexperience and me being to shy to say what I actually what that mant it just didnt happen.
have never had any trouble with it myself and am hoping with the next guy I'm with I'm able to speak up more
Do you make any noise when you're enjoying yourself? That's always a big indicator of how much you're enjoying yourself, especially if you are uncomfortable with actually saying anything. I'm the same - even after three and a half years I find it very difficult to tell him what I want, but he knows when I'm enjoying myself because I have a tendency to get very, um, vocal...
personally if ur comfortable wit him you should be able to mention you need to be simulate to orgasm.