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Um.....hi.
i'm 15, and i've been cutting my skin with scissors since i was 12 on and off, but recently i've started to make longer and deeper cuts. I don't want to tell anyone i know about it, i told my best friend that i used to and i didn't do it anymore when actually i do. i don't want to see a doctor, and i've tried phoning a helpline twice but have ended up freaking out, bursting into tears and hanging up. I've realised that i actually want to talk to someone who also self harms/ used to self harm, so i was wondering if anyone would be kind enough to talk to me. I know i need help and i just can't do it alone but i don't want anyone either too personal (i.e. family and friends) or too impersonal (i.e a doctor) to talk to. Please help me, i'm sorry.
i'm 15, and i've been cutting my skin with scissors since i was 12 on and off, but recently i've started to make longer and deeper cuts. I don't want to tell anyone i know about it, i told my best friend that i used to and i didn't do it anymore when actually i do. i don't want to see a doctor, and i've tried phoning a helpline twice but have ended up freaking out, bursting into tears and hanging up. I've realised that i actually want to talk to someone who also self harms/ used to self harm, so i was wondering if anyone would be kind enough to talk to me. I know i need help and i just can't do it alone but i don't want anyone either too personal (i.e. family and friends) or too impersonal (i.e a doctor) to talk to. Please help me, i'm sorry.
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I've been in and out of hospital these past few weeks... for self harm ect. and I must say that I didn't want to talk to anyone. I went to counselling yesterday and it was so good! I thought it would be awful... but she was very nice, and didn't make me say anything I didn't want to. And best of all, she knew nothing about me!
But, if you are dead set against getting help, I'd say try and help yourself. It is a lot harder, but it can be done. Here are some links- http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/body_mind/everyone/self_harm/
http://www.youth2youth.co.uk/helpline.htm
http://www.childline.org.uk/pages/home.aspx
Good luck... These are some things that can help too:
- Flick your wrist with a rubber band
- Hold an ice cube
- Go for a run
- Count to ten
- Draw/paint
- Write a poem or song
- Listen to music
- Read
Or anything else that helps you calm down.
Let us know how you get on x
C-A x
Welcome to the site and more importantly thanks for sharing with us whats going on for you at the moment. It can be really difficult to talk to someone about self harm, especially when your unsure about it yourself. This site is a good start though and may help you to open up to others if thats what you decide to do. As has been mentioned by crying-angel counselling can be helpful for some people. Talking with someone neutral and non judgemental may help you explore the feelings, thinking and motivation beind the self harm, as self harm is often a way of coping with a worry or trauma.
keep posting and looking around the site for info on health.:wave:
the only problem now is that my parents are getting divorced, and i sorta cut myself again a few nights ago, but i'm gonna tell my boyfriend tonight and having him know always makes me want to stop even more, so i'll be okay.
thank you all for your kindness, i really appreciate it
Ive been s/h since i was 15 and im now 19. Ive got scars and i have cut deep too - i just don't know how else to cope. My bf knows that i do it - he don't like it but understands that it is how i cope. Doing other things to distract is good. Maybe it would be easier to write a letter to your gp or sumut - as they can refer for couselling which is really beneficial.
how are you? love
jen xx
i know what you mean, sometimes its the only way out >.< and it's just so easy, isn't it? >.< i know thats bad of me to think like that, but hey.
i was thinking about getting counselling, but i've tried phoning childline twice before and i just completely freaked out and couldn't talk, so i'm guessing talking to a counsellor would be even worse :P
i'm good, don't think it's weird but my boyfriend proposed to me today and he says he was only half joking XDDD he is a crazy boy *shakes head* :P
i haven't cut since a few nights ago, which is pretty good going for me. but i think it's because my boyfriend has been phoning around the time he knows i cut so i talk to him about it and that really helps.
thanks for asking and being so kind ^.^
how are you?
and also, do you want to get rid of your scars? i'm just asking out of curiosity, please don't feel obliged to answer. because i feel weirdly proud of my scars, especially the ones that have healed so you can tell i've had the will power to stop reopening them.
tash
xxxx
try and stop and just talk to someone i no its hard but u need to find the strengh
ive done this before but with razors and I REGRET IT I EVER WENT THREW THAT STAGE
when you get older you feel u need to hide the scars because people will judge you for doing
and allways wearing long sleeves and stuff
i still to this day feel im embarresed for it and now its lead to more other problems which is horrible please try to see someone xx
i know this sounds strange but tbh the thought of telling someone just makes it seem more real >.< like, i'm accepting that i can't cope with it on my own but what if i can cope with it on my own? my boyfriend is helping me a great deal but is there a sure fire way to know if it's becoming a more dangerous addicition? because i'm sure over time i'll be able to manage it, but i just want to have a back-up plan.
xxx
So..What kinda makes no sense :P
But...Well, I self harmed for around 2 years but recently my friends found out as it got...Kinda....Bad...And now I am trying to stop. And damnit, it's rather hard.
I'd be more than happy to talk to you about it because, well, tbh I'd like to talk to someone about it too. I cannot talk to family as they dont know about it...I cant talk to friends because they get upset...And...I dont want to see a GP tbh...
Hope your alright x
thank you for posting ^.^
sure, i'll talk to you
i know what you mean, i told my friend i used to do it but now i've stopped (which is a lie, but still) and i know she was trying to be supportive but i could tell that she was totally freaked >.<
do you want to talk through PMs?
thanks, i hope you are alright, too :P
and btw i'm from the north west as well ^.^
talking to a counsellor is brill - i did it and the first couple of times it is strange but now im finishing with her after 6 months of support and im going to see my liasion worker instead.
yeh thats confusing does that mean he is or he isn't?!?!?Im really not well at all atm just not coping at all and feel lost - im constantly having the feelings to s/h. I don't want to get rid of them - im just not proud enough to show them atm just because of the stigma tis all. Yeh i do feel proud that i ain't reopened them - im only doing it superficially with a razor blade atm but im not able to keep them on show as i sit in lectures with over 200 students and its scary.
how are you??
love jennie
xx
I used to self-harm a lot, as well as self-medicate with drugs and alcohol and solvents, to help me cope with over-whelming emotions. I feel a bit embarassed, but it has made me take the steps to get help.
Self-harming is a funny thing... You feel numb, you get the release, then you get the onslaught of mixed emotions, as well as the heightened pain of the injury.
Vitamin E cream is good for scars.
Me too. I take great comfort from seeing my scars for the same reasons you said. Welcome to the site btw.
You ok. im jennie nearly 20 and have been s/h since i was bout 16. I don't feel comfortable either. How are you??
xx