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My friends make me feel bad about myself
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basically, my friends never compliment me. ever. they compliment one another but not me. and before you say, maybe they dont have anything to compliment you on, without sounding too much of an arsehole i know i am a bit more attractive than them and wear nicer clothes. yes i know, why do i need compliments then if i know i look ok? well sometimes i need reassurance cos i do hve quite low self esteem, and when i ge all dressed up with them and they are calling each other nice etc and theres me with no compliments, it does make you feel like shit i can assure you.
i dont know if i come across as arrogant..i mean i dont think i do but i know i force myslef to act confident cos i dont want people to know how low my self esteem is. i have too much pride for that. even on my birthday, when i had spent 60quid on a dress and spent 3 hrs getting ready, not once did i get a "you look nice." i mean come on. sometimes i wonder why i am friends with the people i am, but then when i think about it...it is all women who treat me like this and its like i can cut off contact with every woman in the world. even my family are the same..i dont know what i am doing wrong! my bf tells me i always look good but sometimes it would mean so much for them to say something nice to me
anyone else feel like this? it makes me dread spending time with them :no:
i dont know if i come across as arrogant..i mean i dont think i do but i know i force myslef to act confident cos i dont want people to know how low my self esteem is. i have too much pride for that. even on my birthday, when i had spent 60quid on a dress and spent 3 hrs getting ready, not once did i get a "you look nice." i mean come on. sometimes i wonder why i am friends with the people i am, but then when i think about it...it is all women who treat me like this and its like i can cut off contact with every woman in the world. even my family are the same..i dont know what i am doing wrong! my bf tells me i always look good but sometimes it would mean so much for them to say something nice to me
anyone else feel like this? it makes me dread spending time with them :no:
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You may stand next to your friend and totally outshine her, so your other friends compliment her so she doesn't feel bad standing next to someone so much more good looking than her :-)
True.
you're correct
By recognising those features in your friends they'll probably see a softer side to you and perhaps warm to you more and want to include you in their praise.
Take a look at this building self-esteem article if you haven't already. The BBC health website has lots of good stuff too.
You'll get there.