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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Bit of a toughie of how i phrase all this as it's a difficult topic.

    Firstly, any bloke who is trying/having/debating sex or doing sexual acts with you is a Paedophile. You are 12 whether you feel older or not. That means legally you are technically described as a child. For your own safety you need to stop going near these men. I can understand all the low self-esteem, attention seeking, peer pressure but there must come a point in your head when you realise these men do not love you, are morally disgusting and need putting in prison (where hopefully they'll get the kicking they deserve). It won't help that you are physically developed too, to them you're a little Lolita. You need to use whatever wisdom you have and realise that to get respect in life you need to first have some inyourself. So respect yourself and ditch the perverts.

    Secondly, you need to distance yourself from the older crowd. May i point out that if they gave that much of a shit about you they wouldn't let the paedos near you. If you were my little sister i'd be not be letting you out of my sight i can assure you and if you were my daughter you'd be grounded and made to stay in so we could talk it out and work out how to make things better.

    Thirdly, i think it's going to be hard for you to return to being 12, you've had too much thrown at you too young. But that is no excuse for not trying to make the best out of life. Don't just give up and think ah well it's started so i'll just keep going. You need to pull yourself up, give yourself a slap and say Sod this, i need to do something. Get help from whatever avenue you can, talk to your mum about everything and get help from her.

    Oh and suck it up that some people aren't going to agree with you in life and take the negative comments with the positive ones. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Listen- everything people say I take in. But at the time I started this thread I was in a shit mood, but since then I've become a bit happier. I've made more friends, I've sorted out some problems (with out using violene) and I've had a hair cut. I'm a lot happier in myself at the moment, and am excepting that I am who I am.

    EDIT: I may not be perfect, but today I have done some things right. And it has cheered me up a bit. I've got councelling later, and I've spoken to some teachers at school today about Shaun. Over the weekend I was in a bad mood, but today I'm quite pleased with myself.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don’t want to sound too flippant, but you seem to dealing with the ups and downs of being an almost-teen: boys/girls, drinking, smoking and a fluctuating moral compass. I was the same as I suspect were most people on this site, despite their protests to the contrary. I’m – at the ripe ol’ age of 27 - still prone to small external influences tipping my moods one way or the other. It’s perfectly natural (or at least I hope it is! :D). It also seems to me, at least at a cursory glance, that in certain areas you possess an intelligence and physicality beyond your years; it seems logical that you’ve taken to socialising with people older than yourself; however, you’re starting to see that balance and wisdom aren’t synonymous with age. It sounds like you’ve got some areas of your life that need work. That’s up to you to sort out. If you’ve people to lean on, then do so, but if not, this is work that you’ve got to undertake yourself.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry to bring this up again, im just wondering if your okay now, but as some other people have said, it seems like you dont really want to accept the advice your given..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Smartie wrote: »
    Sorry to bring this up again, im just wondering if your okay now, but as some other people have said, it seems like you dont really want to accept the advice your given..

    It's going to be hard, I know, but I am going change. I've decided. :yes: I think the first step is to stop drinking/smoking... And I haven't had a drink for 4 days. So I am going to try.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm sorry hon,..but I don't think the problem is what you do, but who you do it with. I don't think you'll ever be able to completely give up smoking or drinking or anything without giving up the people you do it with, which'll be difficult because.. they're your friends. A while ago you mentioned you might be going into care or to boarding school, maybe you should take up the idea of boarding school? That could help you find a structure, or normality, or other 'normal' twelve year olds, or whatever you want to find.
    Hope that helps?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like you are taking a step in the right direction, just try to keep focused on becomming a better person.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't want to leave all my friends... But there are a few who will support me, I know that.

    I am going to see how it goes at my current school, I've decided to finish this year. Then see if I'll be able to carry on without getting to messed up! If this year goes well, then I think I'll keep in public school.

    Thanks for all your advice :-)
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