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being more confident
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I think I have finally worked out why I'm so bad at handjobs and blowjobs. It's down to a lack of confidence in my abilities, and seeing as the worse I am, the more likely my bf is to tell me to just stop cause I don't seem into it, so it reinforces me to think I'm going to bad, it's one of those vicious cycle type deals. So I need to either be more confident about it, or find a good way to fake it, I know last time I had loads of guys saying how handjobs aren't that big a deal but my bf is quite taken by them, so I think I need to get confident about it sharpish, can anyone help me out cause I do want to do this for him, but my self doubts are killing our sex life
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I really don't see the problem. If you want to do it, you should be into it and it should be recognizeable that you are trying to give him a good time.
I have tried getting him to show me what he likes, but i just dont seem to be able to put it into practise myself which is why i think the issue is one of me just needing the confidence to maybe be a bit more sexy about it, because i've had very little experience with HJ's and its very easy as a girl i think to just feel like your rubbish, even when there isn't really an issue with technique, its just you dont appear into it (in my case) out of shyness and inexperience
Seek out a porn site and watch a few videos. Alternatively read up on techniques for blowjobs. There's plenty of advice about on how to do it and really blow him away.
If I could give any tips it would be:
That's just off the top of my head (excuse pun). He really should be talking to you though as this is the only way of becoming better lovers and to make it worse just when you think you've got the hang of it, another guy will prefer something else. The main thing to remember is there's not a specific way to do it, it's about how you connect as lovers and each couple are unique so play, experiment and have fun.