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jealousy!
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okay so this is going to be quite a long story but my boyfriend is wonderful, i love him with all my heart weve been together for nearly 4 months now, but he has trust issues. He was been cheated on before, and i know that he worries about it happening again. Ive been cheated on before, so i do know how it feels, but i dont let it worry me too much and i trust him. Last saturday evening, i was meant to go to his, but a male friend of mine came round, and we went to my room for all of 5 minutes so i could show him something on my laptop. I didnt tell my boyfriend cause i know what hes like, and plus, this guy is just a mate, my boyfriend knows him from primary school, and so really it was nothing. But somehow, he found out, someone told him, i have no idea who, but he flipped out, BIG TIME. we had a huge row, he smashed up my phone and he was acting like i was cheating on him or something, which is something i would never do. We sorted things out, kinda. But at nearly everything i say, he is making little comments about my "other boyfriend" and really pathetic stuff like that. At first, i understood, cos it must be a little upsetting. But he is really taking it too far now, of course i feel bad for not telling him, but he is going abit extreme about it all now. There is no telling him, ive said everything i can. Its driving me mad now! I want it sorted before the weekend so we can have a nice weekend together.
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If someone flips at such a bullshit and goes the passive aggressive way of "other boyfriend" shit and is violent too (smashing the phone) he is a piece of shit who shouldn't be worth your time. My adivice: break up with him, it's not worth the hassle, but you might realize that rather later than sooner.
You really should get rid of this boyfriend and tell him to work out his issues before he gets another girlfriend. You're only 4 months in, so don't waste any more of your life
You really would be best off telling him where to go, otherwise you'll have to look forward to years of him flying off the handle if you dare to look at another man.
His insecurity is his issue, not yours. And only he can deal with it. You certainly shouldn't have to.
I guess you're right Kermit. I think I overlooked a bit the fact that he smashed the phone. That's a bit too much.
Yeah, you should totally consider leaving him. Find somebody who matches you. He's not the right guy for such a thoughtful and considering girl. Advise him to visit a counselor but don't keep in touch with him. Who knows what he might do else?
I'm dealing with a similar situation and while talking about it, am regretting it has taken any space in my brain. Know it's hard, hang in there.