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planning for a baby with stale sex
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hello i was just wondering if i could have some help
me and my partner are trying for a baby and it just seems like our sex is verry planned and very repetative
its like were having sex for a baby and not really enjoying it ourselves
it just seems to be routine and i want to just feel the need to want him again and not havwe sex for the hopefull outcome of a baby
i think a problem may be the amount where having sexc we have been trying for over a year so its like we dont want to waste tiome and any free time we do it
could i have some help to try and spice things up again but not jeprodise my chances iof a baby
thanks xx
me and my partner are trying for a baby and it just seems like our sex is verry planned and very repetative
its like were having sex for a baby and not really enjoying it ourselves
it just seems to be routine and i want to just feel the need to want him again and not havwe sex for the hopefull outcome of a baby
i think a problem may be the amount where having sexc we have been trying for over a year so its like we dont want to waste tiome and any free time we do it
could i have some help to try and spice things up again but not jeprodise my chances iof a baby
thanks xx
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You've been trying for over a year?! I read on here that if you've been trying for over 6 months, it could be worth getting checked out by the doctor. I could be wrong though.
As for helping you with your sex life, I think that's a bit harder. It's easy to say try and worry less about making a baby, but it's a lot harder for you to relax that much. I'd say don't focus on making a baby, have sex for the orgasm and the intimacy rather than the pregnancy, focus on kissing and caressing each other. Give each other oral sex. Have sex in a different place- on the kitchen table, in the garden, wherever. Just do something to break up the monotony of always having missionary sex in bed in an evening.
After a year I would consider chatting to the doctor, but some say up to 2 years and they wont even do anything
we have talked about going to see the doctor but i think my partners a bit worried i think hes convinced theres a problem with him and if so i think its just a male thing
ive tried to explain it may be something with me or there could be nothing wrong atall hes just a bit hesitant
but i think we should really get checked out.
and thanks for some suggestions to try and spice up our sex life x