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knowing the person is a vergin or not?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
:chin: Hi, im new to this. I m going to be married in june 2009. im afraid of many things. i need some information to make myself comfortable. i have never gone through sex. i m of 26. i m in doubt, can we be sure that the person we are going with is a vergin or not?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In short, no. But why does it matter? "Gone through sex?" You sound like a riot! :yeees:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Exactly, why does it matter? And if your getting married to this person then surely just ask
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Because if she isn't, it's a breach of contract and she'll get stoned to death for it. Gotta love modern society.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    vergen? :confused:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To test if a girl is a virgin - this is a long debated point across history, today i shall help you!

    You will need for this test:
    Butter - 175g (6 oz), softened
    Caster sugar - 175g (6 oz)
    Eggs - 3
    Self raising flour - 175g (6 oz), sifted
    Icing sugar - sifted, optional, or caster sugar

    Cream the butter and sugar together in a bowl and Add the egg yolks, mix together gently then add the flour carefully (some chefs say 1 teaspoonful at a time but half and half is fine)

    Place in a well greased cake tin, 6 to 8 inches across

    Bake in a preheated oven at 180c

    Eat the cake and stop worrying about things that dont really matter.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey naveed :wave:
    In all seriousness, the best way to find out if someone is a virgin is probablay to ask them even thought it might feel awkward. Would it change things for you if your fiance wasn't a virgin? Or are you worried because you are?
    Good communication is really important in a relationship and it's understandable to be afraid of sex for the first time.
    Good luck with everything :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The only way you can tell is if the person tells you.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So your getting married to this person and you have no idea shes a virgin or not? have you not discussed sex?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know - "What? put that in there?!?" is a bit of a give away.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Could you tell us a bit more about your situation?

    Is it an arranged marriage? Where do live, whats your religiuos background etc?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jarvey Of Suburbia wrote: »
    Could you tell us a bit more about your situation?

    Is it an arranged marriage? Where do live, whats your religiuos background etc?

    i think we all need to remember that there are some cultures where virginity til married is a big issue and not just jump on someone saying that it doesn't matter when someone is just asking a question.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jarvey Of Suburbia wrote: »
    Could you tell us a bit more about your situation?

    Is it an arranged marriage? Where do live, whats your religiuos background etc?

    None of these things will help you tell the OP how to "be sure" their partner is a virgin - because there is no way.

    The best you can get is asking them, and there are all sorts of reasons that they might choose to conceal the truth - either way.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would say that unless the OP has any concrete reason to think otherwise, he should assume that she is a virgin.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    digitisy wrote: »
    I would recommend you to read two books. I hope that the following books will help you to better understand your marriage. Good luck!
    101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last - this book has many gems of wisdom to offer for newlyweds. The authors' overall assessments of a variety of relationships and wisdom for handling various issues that arise between committed couples is on target.
    First Comes Marriage: Modern Relationship Advice from the Wisdom of Arranged Marriages by Reva Seth.This book recommends focusing on compatible values, figuring out what you need in a marriage partner so you know what to look for, creating a balanced social life, and being willing to commit.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If the OP has been romancing long enough to be engaged and due for marriage, then the couple should really know more than that by now :-) If the OP really doesn't know, then I think there are issues on the partner's front i.e. the partner could be lying.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Monserrat wrote: »
    If the OP has been romancing long enough to be engaged and due for marriage, then the couple should really know more than that by now :-) If the OP really doesn't know, then I think there are issues on the partner's front i.e. the partner could be lying.

    or it could be an arranged marriage.
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