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What should i do? How should i do it? GF trouble im so stuck!
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Hey,
Im with this girl and i used to really like her, but no more. I was with her a year ago as well, then had a break and now we're together. She loves me apparantly, but i can't say i feel the same back, actually i am not all that happy with her. I like someone else. Alot. And she is probably one of my better friends aswell.
I know i should finish with the girl im with but i hate what i would do to her!
And whats the best way i should handle the situation of who i like?
Please help, because the longer im with this girl, the less chance i have getting with who i actually like (but i suppose thats not possible anyway)
Thanks x
Im with this girl and i used to really like her, but no more. I was with her a year ago as well, then had a break and now we're together. She loves me apparantly, but i can't say i feel the same back, actually i am not all that happy with her. I like someone else. Alot. And she is probably one of my better friends aswell.
I know i should finish with the girl im with but i hate what i would do to her!
And whats the best way i should handle the situation of who i like?
Please help, because the longer im with this girl, the less chance i have getting with who i actually like (but i suppose thats not possible anyway)
Thanks x
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I can understand how this is a tough position for you to be in. Not wanting to hurt the girl you're with at the moment is obviously a positive sign, as is the fact that you are recognising you may eventually be happier with someone. One thing I will suggest to you is, you mention another girl you like, this happens, fair enough, seen it happen dozens of times before. However, I would be extremely wary of starting something else with this other girl for the next few months. Again, this is something which people say time and time again, but relationship breakdowns and beginnings which come out of them too quickly because it feels like the grass is greener, do seem to mess up a lot of friendships, not to mention the person doing the dumping.
Breakups where the relationship has exceeded the few months together timescale are often complicated. Although, there may have been indications throughout from both side suggesting the two of you are maybe not as well suited as you originally thought, and it can be easy to just look at these when you've decided to call it a day. However, time, familiarity and the fondness or love which stems from this can compel people to look past this for solutions which will prolong the relationship, this can often be a difficult thing to make sense of when a relationship ends. If things haven't been right for a while (which you seem to suggest in your post) I do think you need to question why you have allowed the relationship to continue. Often not wanting to hurt the other person is a common reason, but I think if you would be willing to start something new with someone else so quickly, is part of it perhaps you feel uncomfortable not being in a relationship?
However, do not expect the other person to fall to there knees. I left my bf, and i like someone else who doesnt like me back. So now im alone. But i know i did the right thing!
good luck.
xxx
good luck
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