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In Love With My Best Friend But Engaged To Someone Else...
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Basically ive been in love with my best friend for the best part of 4 years...ive known him for about 6 or 7 years. I recently told him how i felt and he does not treat me any different then before, our friendship is still as strong, maybe even stronger. He has told me that he does not love me the same way but just as a friend.
As u might have guessed this is a big problem for me considering i am already engaged to someone who i am madly in love with and couldnt live without Also it is not helped that the two guys in my life are best friends so we are always hanging out together and one drunken night my fella found out how i felt bout my friend and things have been a little tense but are getting back on track because he knows im not going to leave him for my friend.
I still have the feelings for my friend and am always getting upset about the fact that i will never be with him, im always jelous of his gf's and its driving me mad...i dont want to feel this way anymore...any help??:crying:
As u might have guessed this is a big problem for me considering i am already engaged to someone who i am madly in love with and couldnt live without Also it is not helped that the two guys in my life are best friends so we are always hanging out together and one drunken night my fella found out how i felt bout my friend and things have been a little tense but are getting back on track because he knows im not going to leave him for my friend.
I still have the feelings for my friend and am always getting upset about the fact that i will never be with him, im always jelous of his gf's and its driving me mad...i dont want to feel this way anymore...any help??:crying:
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It sounds as though you're just stringing along your fiance and keeping him on the back burner, would you still want to be with him if the friend you have feelings for suddenly declared they were mutual?
It sounds as though that guy just sees you as a friend (as he's said)...not a lot else you can do really..
Or you can just keep loving him and be miserable.
i second that.
Also, why did you tell your friend you have feelings for him? Was it because you hoped he'd reciprocate them? The real loser in this situation is your fiance, you shouldn't be stringing him along like this. Make a choice: either drop your friend or drop your fiance, or at least stop entertaining the thought of being with your friend.
I told him because he knew something was up with me because i actually tried to avoid him which just upset him and he wanted to kno why.
I kno im not going to end up with my friend, but i still have these feelings which hurt like hell and i just want them to go away...i want it all to go back to how it used to be
So why aren't you married yet? If its not that you've been in love with someone else for the last 4 years, then what's stopping you?
I have a feeling the guy you are engaged to is going to get hurt in the longrun as it seems quite possible things might change.
It is a really awful basis to start a marriage
If you REALLY loved your fiance and wanted to be with him, you would have made the commitment and had a cheap register office wedding years ago and you wouldn't be fretting now about wether or not you were in love with someone else.
If you do love your fiance at all, its time to make a choice: either ditch the other guy, get married and get on with your life together, or break up and start over. At the moment you're not being fair to yourself, your fiance or your friend - time to make the tough choice.
Costs £0 to get married in church.
I used to like my best friend, and we hung out a lot, and when i introduced my actual boyfriend to him, he got sad/mad and we slowly grew apart, now he has a new girlfriend, and we talk like...once every two months....
So, think about now you're safe and happy with your fiance and don't have to wander