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The thing I'm now in a relationship with my girl about 3 month.
Well it was ine the begiining kind of difficult, because she told
most of the time about her ex-boyfriend. I mean she told me almost
everything. Including sedxual practices etc.. which i'm just disgusted by
when I think of it. The thing they broke up several times, but somehow she
had bad luck with other guys and returned everytime back to him. This took place over 5 years. Well maybe she was really young at that time! (17) and he about 5 years older. But she said that she was embarassed by his looks and hid him in front of her friends. Also he didn't treated her well she said in comparison to me.
Well she said she didn't wanted to be alone, but why everytime returning to this guy. Anyway in the begnning I thought ok she isn't over him yet.
Maybe this will stop from time to time. But two weeks ago she told me
that she slept after our third date again with her ex-boyfriend.
I mean until that time we weren't involved in any way, but still it feels like cheating! Well now she says she loves me and I believe her, but still I think every time about it.
Well it was ine the begiining kind of difficult, because she told
most of the time about her ex-boyfriend. I mean she told me almost
everything. Including sedxual practices etc.. which i'm just disgusted by
when I think of it. The thing they broke up several times, but somehow she
had bad luck with other guys and returned everytime back to him. This took place over 5 years. Well maybe she was really young at that time! (17) and he about 5 years older. But she said that she was embarassed by his looks and hid him in front of her friends. Also he didn't treated her well she said in comparison to me.
Well she said she didn't wanted to be alone, but why everytime returning to this guy. Anyway in the begnning I thought ok she isn't over him yet.
Maybe this will stop from time to time. But two weeks ago she told me
that she slept after our third date again with her ex-boyfriend.
I mean until that time we weren't involved in any way, but still it feels like cheating! Well now she says she loves me and I believe her, but still I think every time about it.
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(ie, to fuck)
She doesn't sound worth worrying about.
Well I'm sure if I wouldn't have heard about it I would be happy with her.
I still am its just the fact that she still somehow cares about him after
all what he did. I just try to get it. Why returning to a guy which
outward apperance you didn't even like and who treats you bad.
And this several times.
the times she didn't answer or told him via email that she is now with me.
At least that was she told me, but I have no doubt.
Even if its nonrelevant. It just kills me thinking about her past "relationship".
I've never been impressed by a girl who speaks so badly of their ex's.
if she had a particularly bad time with her ex he may well be playing on her mind a lot, in which case you should be supportive, and happy that she's with you now. she may have just got into the habit of talking about him, or she may still have feelings for him, in which case you should have a chat about how much it annoys you that she talks about him so much. or it may just be that she had a lot of experiences with this guy, so he comes up a lot in her thoughts and stories, in which case you need to either chill out or think hard about whether you can learn to put up with it.
sadly, none of us know which one of the three it is so in the end it's your call. hope you can get this sorted out