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My best mate gf is a total bitch
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My best mate gf is a total bitch,
she hits people, even him, she takes the piss and then when u jokingly take the piss back she hits you and when my mates around her he completly changes and only talks to her
the other day one of my other mates took the piss out of her for some thing that didn't even matter so she kicked his legs from under him and hit him in the stomach with a shoe and yet my best mate though it was just playful cos it was from a girl when about 30mins later he had a bruise on his stomach in the shape of a shoe, now i don't find that vefry nice and i don't want my mate to get hurt, mental and phsical from her
I really don't know what to do, should i tell him or just try and aviod his GF
she hits people, even him, she takes the piss and then when u jokingly take the piss back she hits you and when my mates around her he completly changes and only talks to her
the other day one of my other mates took the piss out of her for some thing that didn't even matter so she kicked his legs from under him and hit him in the stomach with a shoe and yet my best mate though it was just playful cos it was from a girl when about 30mins later he had a bruise on his stomach in the shape of a shoe, now i don't find that vefry nice and i don't want my mate to get hurt, mental and phsical from her
I really don't know what to do, should i tell him or just try and aviod his GF
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I'll get flamed for this, but a few times (this has worked EVERY time for me) when wanting to break two people up, I've set up a fake Facebook account msging one of them that the other has been cheating on them. Make it sincere that it's cos you're their friend you need to know about it, you don't want to get in trouble so are telling them anonymously. If they're not seeing each other on a daily basis this will certainly rouse suspicion and in every case with me the pair have broken up.
Don't do this. I have had someone tell me my ex was cheating on me with the one person they knew I would believe he could have done it with. It broke my heart before he even broke up with me. It's not a nice thing to do, no matter how much of a bitch his girlfriend is.
Do not do that .. What sort of freak would you be to go to those sort of lengths to break someone up. That would be really interfering and if you were found out you would get a reputation for being a weirdo and also people might think twice about trusting you.
She sounds like a bit of a violent one there's probably reasons why she does it, maybe you should just ask her out right why she always hits him and your other friends.
When she does it again say to her, 'What are you doing:eek2:' and frown when you say it, it will make her feel like an idiot and embarrass her.
I agree don't just let her do it make a comment, she can't get away with hitting people!
There's more to life than just getting what you want, but I don't know if you've worked this out yet. But by your posts I'm pretty sure you're a troll anyway.
You know, your last line:
you could use as justification for rape, murder, whatever. It just doesn't wash.
I love that song.
To the OP I would suggest just being there for your mate if it all falls apart as she sounds quite controlling. As for the violent behaviour I think the only thing you can do if your other friends don't mind is to make it known that you don't stand for that sort of thing from her if she ever tries it on you. Maybe they are treating it as a joke because they don't know how to respond to a woman being that physially aggressive.
You must have way too much time on your hands to do sad-act things likes that!
And doing it to spilt your mate and his gf up just because you didn't want to hang out with her?!...wha a great mate you are :rolleyes: who needs enemies eh?
It doesn't matter if it's always worked. You're a strange kid.
The fact that you admit to knowing you'll get flamed for these kind of comments really bugs me because this is a website for serious advice and support and you're outright admitting that you're posting stuff to get people's backs up. :eek2: The most disappointing thing about this is that people are responding to you instead of offering further advice to the op. :grump:
Curly_boy, it can be pretty hard work when you don't get along with a friend's partner, but even more so when they actively cause offence. While you don't have to become best of mates with her, it does sound like she may be a little insecure and your best bet may well be to do everything you can to avoid arguments/confrontations/difficult situations. E.g. encouraging your mates to avoid saying things that will wind her up and just generally keeping her at arms length without being rude.
Over time you may find that she calms down, or that things just don't work out between the pair. Ultimately, It's important to be there for your friend so that if something does go wrong then he feels like he can come to you guys for support. If he feels like he's just going to get an 'I told you so response' it may drive him away and he may feel like he can't come to you for advice.
It's gonna take some patience, but unfortunately it's not always possible to get on with everyone our friends fall for, but unless we want to lose their friendship then there are ways to make do!
Good luck.
Helen, you are the most incompetent and utterly stupid - sorry there's no other way of saying that - mod I have seen in a decade of browsing forums. You make completely the wrong assumption time after time to resultantly make the wrong action. I was interested in people's views on arrogance, got a lot of helpful responses which made me learn a lot but had some questions unanswered, then someone suggested I ain't all that so I said it as it is, and you close the thread claiming I set it up just to brag. Wrong. Yesterday I set up a thread asking what people thought about if misogynistic attitudes were helpful in getting girls. A really useful, interesting discussion proceeded, until you delete the whole thread saying I'm asking people if they have those views. No that wasn't the point of the thread, the thread was about people in general having them and the result, not people here sharing their attitude. You call ME rude for making a basic assumption and don't ever talk to MrG making a false assumption in his every other response to me. Fuck you.
How do you know she hasn't spoken to him, may I ask?
I'm not, I think you've misinterpreted what I've said. I've said, the same 'excuse' you've used for your facebook shitstirring or whatever, could be applied to a whole host of devious and horrid crimes. That doesn't make any of them right, and this becomes more apparent when you use an example that is extreme.
But as Helen says, you keep posting (trolling really) to get people's backs up to get a response and are limiting the amount of helpful advice other people can get.
To the OP, talk to the guy. May as well be up front about it, it's not on but some people can be a bit weird like that especially at certain ages. When I was 14 or so I kept going through stages of hitting my male friends. I found it funny, and the more they went 'ow' the more I laughed. Really childish and I guess it's just some weird growing up stage I went through. But really nailed home one time that I was actually being a twat when before I thought I was just being a comedian. I've come across girls who have no harm in hurting me for probably the same reasons so I assume the problem comes from the same roots..
Ban
Also, tinkler, I find it quite insulting that you are seriously suggesting that what you said was genuine advice. There is a good reason you got flamed for it and that is because it was one of the worst pieces of advice I think I've ever seen on here. I think you are pathetic tbh.
To tinkler - Helen is one of the mods who gets involved, protects genuine members and upholds the integrity of these boards. A lot of people come to these boards needing advice. You are well aware that your response was inappropriate, pretty immature and unhelpful and that you've continued to distract from the OP's question. By the sounds of it, your posts are closed because you instigate discussions that are deliberately controversial and you're just trying to get peoples backs up as appose to genuinely need a response to benefit yourself. Troll elsewhere.