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Getting money back
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My ex owes me £300 which I lent him at the start of january because he was skint and the bank wouldn't let him extend his overdraft. I sent him an email last tuesday asking for it back but I've had absolutely no word from him of when it might be or anything. He gets paid around the 20th each month so I'll see if I get anything then. I don't think he's so much of a cunt that he's going to bugger off with £300 of my birthday money which he was going to pay me back anyway. But I was just wondering what I should do if I don't hear anything in the next few weeks? I've got proof because I did it online and I still have the statement which shows that it went into his account.
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try and be nice but let him know that you're prepared to go that far if he doesn't give you the money back.
Hope hes not a cunt and gives it back.
i'd loan you £200 but i need it for a new car and kitchen
He could do that, but the civil courts work on the balance of probabilities. Given the age and the amount of money a court is unlikely to say its a gift.
Its worth a try. Also give him a friendly deadline to contact you and make arrangements.
Do you have any mutual friends who could point out to him that you need the money back?
From what i have found out if you have evidence that he lent the money from you then you should be able to take it from the small claims court, but even if the court says that he should pay you back then be prepared for him not paying you back.
Try contacting him again asking for the money if he ignores you again say that you if you ignore me then i will have no other option then to seek legal advice. (Then see what happens) he might come up trumps.
This is the hard one except it as a life lesson and realise that your not going to get the money back. I know this is hard (cause it was for me, at the time i didnt have the money but over the time i've managed to pay off most of the debt).
I have a friend who when they split up her then partner left her in v serious debt. It brought me to my senses and thought id pay it off. (Maybe my ex will come to his senses but then again pigs might fly LOL)
The decision is yours, at least you have the evidence to show that you gave him the money. (Smart girl)!!!
Hope it works out for you.
Honestly, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I think you best kiss that loan goodbye. My ex still owes me 300 pounds which she said she'd pay by last September and I still haven't seen it. We split up in December 06...
Essentially, unless you have something written down it's his word against yours. Sorry
At the end of the day its upto you what you want to do.
I went along the lines of everyweek for about 6 weeks contacting my ex for the money and he kept on saying yeah i'll give it to you next week, but it never happened. I came on this site to seek advice about what i should do about my relationship and the money and the advice i was getting was forget it.
I took on extra work and asked to be paid for some holiday money that my company owed me to get rid of my debt. I now owe about £40.00.
I can appreciate that the money you lent him was birthday money which you should have been able to spend on you and buy something nice for yourself.
If you can handle the fob offs and stress then persue it.
My friend was left with 30k of debt, it sort of puts it into prospective.
Hope it works out for you honxx
Just take it easy and try not to let it stress you out too much hunxx