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Asking her to marry me...
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So I'm thinking of asking my girlfriend to marry me but I'm a little unsure as to how to go about it. It's her birthday soon and I want to ask then but I'm not sure where to take her (we'll probably go somewhere in Central London; I looked into getting a pod on the Eye but that's £300....)
I'm also not sure if you're supposed to have the ring or not and I've read conflicting things so... ladies, would you rather choose for yourself? And is it too presumptuous to have bought a ring when you haven't asked first?
Help!
I'm also not sure if you're supposed to have the ring or not and I've read conflicting things so... ladies, would you rather choose for yourself? And is it too presumptuous to have bought a ring when you haven't asked first?
Help!
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I had a dream last night that my bf proprosed to me with a headband in the car park at asda - maybe i should say nightmare not dream!
Take her somewhere with some sentimental value, or somewhere that means something to you both, or somewhere where it will be special and that she won't forget
plus it's nice to have something sparkly!
I think sometimes you just need a bit of courage to go out and pick it... if you think you know her tastes then go for it, if your unsure then I would say wait and do it together...
Good luck!
Depends on her, I guess. But jewellers have really good return/exchange policies, so I wouldn't worry.
If you arent too sure about what she'd like maybe you could ask her close friends/sister/mam for advice.
Good luck, and congratulations in advance.
What do you think? I realise none of you know her - and I promise to ask a friend who knows her! - but I just want to be sure it's not unbelievably ugly...
Yellow gold twist ring
Does she wear yellow gold? If she does and you know she likes that style then I would just go for it and buy that one to be honest. I'm sure she'll appreciate the effort you're are putting in to find something special for her.
You could think of a location that will bring back special memories in the future, a place that you could revisit easily but is also special. I like beautiful scenery but your girlfriend may like something different. It is traditional for you to chose the ring, however try to find out what her favourite stone is and her ring size. You could think of getting her birthstone if you are unsure.
She likes really simple jewellery so I think a single, small diamond is best but I don't want to get something too "obvious", and I think the curvy shape is more feminine than a band somehow.
I know But if you get her a yellow gold it will be mighty hard to find a matching set of non yellow gold wedding rings for you both that will go with the yellow gold engagement ring that you get her. Just saying perhaps that you could sort of nonchalantly discuss and find a material you both like.
If you think she will be really worried about what she wears on her finger then i suggest buying a really nice affordable ring, like one from argos just for the proposal and say to her that she has pick of any ring within your price range.
If on the other hand u think she'll be happy with whatever you decide then go for the ring u picked out...it is a beautiful ring and if yellow gold is also her favourite you've already made a good desicion.
Wedding bands can be made to match whether they r the same colour or not.
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Don't worry too much about finding out the size in advance either - it can always be resized! Mine was done for free :thumb:
The engagement ring and the wedding ring don't have to match. You don't even have to have matching wedding rings if you have very different tastes. Our wedding rings match in that they're both plain white gold bands.
Nah, I think there was a bit of tangent going-off-on. OP said that she likes white gold, but her girlfriend like yellow gold, and someone said that if the girlfriend has a yellow gold engagement ring, and they both have white gold wedding rings, it isn't going to match the engagement ring, and if they both have yellow gold wedding rings then OP is going to be stuck with a ring she's not keen on. But matching is neither here nor there.
Even having rings is just a tradition, you wouldn't be any less married if you had no rings at all, so I vote for people doing what the hell they like
:yes: Me too. My Dad got remarried last year and although his wifey has a wedding ring, he reasoned that as he doesn't like wearing rings he wasn't going to get one - I think it's fair enough if they are both happy :thumb: