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It hurts... part 3 :|
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Tried sex like three times now and it still hurts, so much that I can't bear it anymore. I can't even block it out and think of something else, as soon as it comes down to it I just think of how much it's going to hurt. I'm a fag hahah. :rolleyes:
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I remember for the first.. 6 times or so for me it was soo agonisingly painful!! it gradually gets better tho believe me!! and right now its getting to the point when its not painful at all - depending on circumstances (drunkeness, foreplay etc)
i say just try not to think about the pain before hand - if u THINK it will hurt then it will do - youll get all tensed up which is bound to make things sorer.
and dont forget lube - if ur not using it already - that may help things along too
maybe that's a devious cycle, because you are tensed and nervous when it comes down it it, making it uncomfortable.
Try to have enough foreplay to be moist (god i hate that word) enough...
"if your a girl, the male should 'foreplay' to make it more comfortable...... Also, if it hurts the male, he should be gentle and work his body not just 'in n out' because he can pull a hernia."
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Ok, now back to me.
You know how you see porn (i'm not a porn watcher......just seen em at parties because thats all they had) where they do everything fast and crazy? It is because they have done it for years or use pills and other crazy things......
the important thing is not to be anxious etc beforehand... or at least that's what my limited experience has led me to believe... and both parties to be horny as hell, and use foreplay... (for us it was strip tic tac toe that relaxed us...)
Lots and lots of foreplay will help you, not to mention ensure that you and your boyfriend are massively turned on.
Work up very slowly, take a long time for foreplay. Make sure you don't jump straight into touching/oral/whatever, take your time with kissing and gradually increase.
If necessary use some extra lubrication (water-based if using condoms). Also try to gradually work up to having a penis in there - start with one finger, then two, etc. Maybe you could practice with something else (e.g. a dildo) to see if you can 'accomadate' something that size normally.
If it's painful, don't force it. Take it slow, relax, and you'll get there!
and yes try lubrication as that can lessen the friction x