It hurts... part 3 :|

Former Member

Tried sex like three times now and it still hurts, so much that I can't bear it anymore. I can't even block it out and think of something else, as soon as it comes down to it I just think of how much it's going to hurt. I'm a fag hahah. :rolleyes:

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:*( thats completely normal!!

I remember for the first.. 6 times or so for me it was soo agonisingly painful!! it gradually gets better tho believe me!! and right now its getting to the point when its not painful at all - depending on circumstances (drunkeness, foreplay etc)

i say just try not to think about the pain before hand - if u THINK it will hurt then it will do - youll get all tensed up which is bound to make things sorer.
and dont forget lube - if ur not using it already - that may help things along too

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Tried sex like three times now and it still hurts, so much that I can't bear it anymore. I can't even block it out and think of something else, as soon as it comes down to it I just think of how much it's going to hurt. I'm a fag hahah. :rolleyes:

maybe that's a devious cycle, because you are tensed and nervous when it comes down it it, making it uncomfortable.

Try to have enough foreplay to be moist (god i hate that word) enough...

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Ok here is my old girlfriend typing.


"if your a girl, the male should 'foreplay' to make it more comfortable...... Also, if it hurts the male, he should be gentle and work his body not just 'in n out' because he can pull a hernia."
Tru

Ok, now back to me.

You know how you see porn (i'm not a porn watcher......just seen em at parties because thats all they had) where they do everything fast and crazy? It is because they have done it for years or use pills and other crazy things......

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My girlfriend had no issue the second time... she experienced bleeding etc and it hurt like hell the first time... whereas a few days ago, she had a fine time... we hadn't thought it out before hand... the stress levels were minimum, and she was almost literally dripping because of her wetness... no condom, her natural wetness lasted all the way through, and i might have made her orgasm once or twice...

the important thing is not to be anxious etc beforehand... or at least that's what my limited experience has led me to believe... and both parties to be horny as hell, and use foreplay... (for us it was strip tic tac toe that relaxed us...)

Former Member

There's a danger here of a possible vicious circle being created. That is, you go to bed, you end up thinking for ages "oh fuck, this is gonna hurt" and what do you know, it does. Like in so many things in life, it's possible to think far too much about sex. Less talk, more action, and all that...

Lots and lots of foreplay will help you, not to mention ensure that you and your boyfriend are massively turned on.

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I agree with StrubbleS: try not to get wound up or nervous about sex, as this could well be making it more difficult. Before anything else, you need to make sure you're completely happy and comfortable with the situation. Perhaps get a massage beforehand with some nice smelling oils to help you relax.

Work up very slowly, take a long time for foreplay. Make sure you don't jump straight into touching/oral/whatever, take your time with kissing and gradually increase.

If necessary use some extra lubrication (water-based if using condoms). Also try to gradually work up to having a penis in there - start with one finger, then two, etc. Maybe you could practice with something else (e.g. a dildo) to see if you can 'accomadate' something that size normally.

If it's painful, don't force it. Take it slow, relax, and you'll get there!

Former Member

aww thats not good chick.. i think you should just build it up with foreplay and if it hurts you dont have to go through with it
and yes try lubrication as that can lessen the friction x