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It's pretty much what we did.
Totally. To me it would show (it did) a willingness for commitment, and that what the both of you have is so special that she feels that she's ready to take it that step further to really seal a bond between you.
Yeah, I'm traditional aswell and I'd really like to do the whole asking her dad for his daughters hand in marriage thing, then get down on one knee somewhere nice.
Glad stuff's worked out for you though mate :thumb:
I got a proposal rejected when I was 17 and it wasn't all that bad - nobody is nasty enough to say no on the spot while you're bent down on one knee, especially if your sure enough about the relationship to propose in the first place.
Granted it'd be a proper kick in the nuts if you got rejected live on TV or on a transatlantic flight but if your silly enough to do something like that then you deserve it!
i find it a bit odd and disturbing when people get engaged after a couple of months or when people get engaged without a plan to get married, they just stay engaged for years.
if i ever get engaged it will be with a view to getting married shortly.
pointless engagements are 10 a penny these days.
I agree, I would never want to be engaged unless I felt ready for marriage. I guess sometimes when you feel so madly in love you want to express it in some way and so some people think that proposing is a good way of doing that. They're usually young and then break up a few years down the line!
It isn't (or wasn't for me) anything about proof, I didn't give a rat's ass what anyone else thought of my relationship, it's about an emotional commitment. That said, though, people took us more seriously when we introduced each other as fiance(e) rather than boy/girlfriend.
Luckily for me, we are having a very small day, so we could afford to as soon as he asked me in September, and the wedding is in December, which is just the way I wanted it.
you see i have bo problems with that, when you got engaged you planned to get married but you couldnt for financial reasons, which is fair enough, a bloke at work was in the same position and had to save for a couple of years, but then went through with it.
but you get loads of shoddy engagements, mainly younger people aged 16-20 who are just getting engaged for the sake of it, like its the next natural step, when it doesnt have to be. people dont need to be engaged to be in love.
for example, my brother and his girlfriend have been together over 10 years, have 2 children and havent got engaged because they couldnt commit to marriage because they'd prefer to do up the house or go away on holiday a few times a year. they are completely suited with it.
the other side is, 18 year old, been together a few months, think they are the one, get engaged, ask them when are you getting married and they have no idea. thats what pisses me off.
at least she's not going to be expecting it... you could say that you really wanted to ask yourself and that you're just confirming your love and your desire to be her husband... or something?
Aw, congrats
I really like the idea of a woman proposing to her boyfriend. I didn't get the chance to do it but I definitely would've and I think it'd have been appreciated.
As for the long engagements, I don't like them but I see the necessity/understand the reasoning... sometimes anyway. We got married very quickly and quietly without any fanfare or extravagance. It suited us and it suited our needs, of course it helped that we could afford the wedding we wanted. Even the quiet, subtle and inexpensive costs an arm a leg and both ears when it comes to weddings. We were engaged from Christmas so I guess that was an engagement of 8 months, never really thought about it... but then a lot happened in that time :thumb: