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Is being a virgin after 16 still cool?
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It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all.
So anyway, I'm a bit worried about today cos I'm going on a first-date with a guy who I met for the first time three weeks ago and I've not seen him since that night but I'v spoken to him on the phone quite a bit and we text each other at leats twice every day! So anyway this all sounds nice and lovely etc etc but I'm worried because I'm a virgin and have only ever been out with guys who are also virgins (just happens that way) but Tony is nearly 20 and I really doubt he could be a virgin.
I know sex wont be an issue tonight but is it right for me to start this when I dont think I will be up for sex for a long time (I know I'm nearly 17 but I have issues with sex) and should I tell him?
ohhh I dont know what to do. I dont have a problem with being a virgin and I think its a really good thing, I like surprising people when I tell them because they always think I wouldnt be a virgin.
What do you think guys/girls? should I be seeing him at all? should I speak to him about sex? when should I? Am I worrying about nothing......?
Dee
no one should just "expect" sex in a relationship, and if your boyfriend (being optimistic here <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">) says he wont stay with you unless you sleep with him or something equally immature, hes definitely not worth it!! there are other things you can do apart from full sex anwyay, and if hes that desperate, well he always has his hand! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
and im 49% bitch apparently according to that test!
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
But great news! Aww I'm so happy - the date went perfectly and he was the perfect gentleman! After me worrying about being pressured into sex, I found myself wondring if he was going to be too gentlemanly to kiss me at all! hehehe we did actually share a lovely kiss in (the front seat of) his car and we parked just outside my village on the way home and talked for three hours!
My mum wasnt too happy when i woke her up at half one becuse i'd forgotten my keys! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
and yeh - still a virgin and still ever so proud
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
this was one of the reasons why me and my b/f broke up. he wanted sex and i didn't. he kept pressuring me to the point that i was really cross and tired of the whole thing. i nearly give in if it's the only way to shut him up as i didn't wanna lose him. he was nice and he was different from any of my past ex's.
worse, all my friends were doing it too, my bestmate was forever going on about how sex is so great and how i should try it too...i am 17.
i don't know why i broke up with my b/f and why i didn't listen to my bestmate. it was like a 6th sense telling me not to do it. i know the time i know i'll be ready is the time i have NO doubts...but right now, i have too many doubts.
now 3 weeks after breaking up with my b/f...im actually glad i didn't give in. if he really cared for me, he'll respect me right?
so i think hanging on is not uncool. it just means you're not ready and it just means when it comes to your first time...it'll be special.
When it happens with the right person (this is very important) it is great and you'll end up staying in bed all day!!
does a woman who has given hands and blows but not yet "penetrated" qualify as a virgin?
is virginity all about the breaking of the hymen?
being a virgin after 16 is cool and not being a virgin after 16 if u lost it to the right person is also cool, but if u lost it to the wrong like me then its deffo not cool!
one of my biggest regrets is losing it to a lad who put me under pressure to do it and being innocent and vunerable i did. but as far as me and my bf r concerned we lost it to eachother (he did lose it to me)
all i can say is hold onto it as long as poss until the right person comes along!
You actually have to have sexual intercourse to lose ur virginity, so if a gurl has bin fingered or woteva, no it doesn't count.
i'm still a virgin and im very cool <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif">
lol just kidding! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
im soo glad that im not a virgin still, my boyfrend who ive been with 4 about 4 months is 20 and we get on really well... our relationship isnt just about sex, its just that sex keeps our relationship stronger.
Best thing is too start early..
We love each other and we r talking about getting married,
i think ppl who have sex 2 young like, 11,12 only do it coz they are forced 2..
coz ive known some ppl who have been forced 2 have sex at 12, its not fair,
I JUST WANNA SAY SEX IS GOOD......
BUT DONT B ASHAMED IF UR A VIRGIN..
Welcome to thesite Natalie. Yeah, i agree with you about the last statement you made <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
I recently lost my virginity (im 16) but i did only cos im in a very happy relationship with my gf, i would of waited as long as it takes as i wouldnt sleep with anyone, i would have to care about them and love them to share something that intimate.
"Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
- Woody Allen
this one is 6 years old...