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Is being a virgin after 16 still cool?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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In the old days this was something of wonder, it used to be cherihed as a thing of innocence and beauty, that was untill the 90's got here. I am 17 and I am still a vigin, it doesn't bother me, but what does bother me is the abuse I get for not 'losing my cherry' pardon me but who really give a damn, the important thing I feel is the 'right place' right time' theory, I still hold onto it and will continue to do so until 'I get laid' pardon the vulgar term, tell me what you think?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your absolutely right - im 17 and im stil holdin onto it! At the end of the day its ur choice no one elses -who cares if its not 'cool' or not? Make it special - to many people nowadays regret their first time - dont be one of them thats my opinion! Lucyxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm 78, still a virgin and so cool, I piss ice cubes.

    You're doing the right thing.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Virginity is not some kind of baggage that needs to be got rid of, I'm 21 and still a virgin, not through any concious effort, but just because I haven't met anyone who I feel comfortable enough to have sex with. I would like to think that this doesn't make me a freak, nor does it mean that I am an unattractive or inexperienced with blokes. Don't worry about what anyone else says, one day it'll just happen at whatever age, or maybe it won't. Having sex doesn't make you a whole person, being yourself does!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There is nothing wrong with being a virgin.
    There is nothing wrong with not being a virgin. Some people have very relaxed feelings about who they have sex with and others like it to be a sacred thing they keep for only special people, i think if people take the piss out of you for being a virgin, they dont know what their talking about. Its your personal choice when youd like to do it.

    Carry on doing what your doing (or not doing so to speak) Im sure when you find the right person you will feel even better about waiting.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I want my first time to be "special"
    The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm nearly 17 and still a virgin, in fact I've only been out with one person for a day!

    Wait for the right person.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't see anything wrong with being a virgin it is a sign of purity, though this may be just an old view!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, I'm 16, not a virgin but I bloody well wish I was! Sex really does make everything too complicated. It's a cliche I know, but only sleep with someone you care about. I don't know if it's just a girl thing, but it's a horrible feeling to do the most intimate thing possible with someone and then realise it meant nothing. You feel cheap, pathetic and it undermines sex with the 'right' person. Wait! Make sure that you don't listen to you mates and whoever else, a fair amount are just accomplished liars. Being a virgin is no big deal, not being one is!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cheers guys, there is no way I will give it up unless the right person comes along, there was never any question that I cherish it, but when people go on about it it starts to make me think 'well what if its me>' and that sux, anyway cheers for your info and keep replying to let me know what you think
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As long as u are careful ur first time and it is with someone u care about then fine. Dont lose it for the sake of it like on of my mates did, he didnt admit it but I could see he felt like a total shit!
    When u do, be very careful, dont rush anything, it would be particularly shitty if a pregnancy resulted from your first time.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the first time i had sex was crap but it didn't mean having sex with a wonderful guy i loved wasn't amazing. what i'm trying to say is being a virgin or not doesn't really matter, its having sex when you want with some one you want that matters.
    peace and love to you all
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As i said on another chat board (but still in thesite.org.uk) i am a virgin and proud of it. Cept this could be cause i do not believe in sex before marriage, i think its best to save it till the wedding night, makes the day even more special. Dont worry about it, chill.
    Keep the Vibe!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The first time i had sex wasnt somthing I want to remember it was not perfect or with someone i truley loved it was with a friend. I think the reason i did it was to be "cool" and to experience it with someone "cool" but now 3 yrs later I wish i would have waited because now Im with someone perfect. We have been together 2 yrs now and he lost his virginity to me. I just wish i could have shared that with him. Even though it was perfect "our first time"and I say i lost my virginity to him but it still didnt mean the same as if i would have waited.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    in my opinion sex is neather cool or uncool, its sometime that is done like eating but when ur older and in a relationship, whether u had sex or not does not change u for better or worse.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    True, except that it is far more significant emotionally and physically than eating. It doesn't change your intrinsic worth, but it does effect you a lot.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dunno... eating's an important part of sex, lmao...

    Nah sex is bare important... think the average age for loosing V-plates is 17 in UK n e way.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I feel like I'm bad. i lost my virginity when I was 14. I don't think that sex is bad or anything like that. The next time that I have sex is going to be after I find a good guy. I need a boyfriend. NOT for the sex.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wel, no-one'll preach, especially not me, I was only a year older than you were when I first had sex. If the guy you slept with wasn't a good bloke, then one good thing came out of it; you won't do it again. Sleep with whoever you want, just make sure they're not bright red and carry a pitchfork. (I have issues)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Chica's telling the truth, Satan himself is involved <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.

    But don't feel bad jessica, these things happen.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sex is really not that great unless u do it with someone u love and r really attracted to lol . but honest it isnt that great.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i'm also a believer in right person right time, until that day comes (no pun intended) i'll remain proud to be a virgin.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but guys, don't spend to much time trying to work out who the right person is or you might not notice when he/she is right in front of you!
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    One of my mates is 17 and still a virgin. I have so much respect for her because of it. It would be really easy for her to shag anyone she wanted (as she is v. pretty) and yet she hasnt. I think thats something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just realised that this thread is titled 'is being a virgin at 16 still cool?' and ofcourse we're all right in saying that you can be a virgin for as long as you want to, it's yours to give away when you want, but i think we're missing the point.

    It seems that in life nowadays (in most social groups anyway) being a virgin at 16 just isn't cool, which seems weird because the reason so many people think that you shouldn't be a virgin at 16 is that they all lie about when they lost it in the first place. I mean in my school i can remember feeling really left out cos all my mates were talking about how they first had sex at like 14 and 15 and it's only now that we're no longer stupid (well not much <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; ) that i know that they were bollocking. I would not doubt that it's the same the world over.

    The point i'm making is that, no, it is no longer cool to be a virgin at 16 but that's only cos people don't think it should be cool, but then again people are stupid, and we know better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what do you class as cool?
    do what you like is my honest opinion.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm 17 and still a virgin! Don't really care. My first time is going to be really special!!
    Smash forehead on keyboard to continue
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, Ronan Keating was a virgin until he got married (well, he is catholic and all that) and he is cool... well, some people think... maybe... okay, bad example, but you get the idea!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    still being a virgin, and making sure that your first time is special is an amazing feeling, almost like power. hold on for a bit longer like you say you will, bcoz im betting it's worth it.
    i wish i couldve <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
    anyways, no depression. i think that whatever you decide, as long as it's right for you, then it's cool.
    there are many things that i would like to say to you, but i dont know how.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think if it feels right and you think the person is right then go for it as long as you dont feel pressured to do it and are comfortable and feel you can trust your partner! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A friend of mine rushed into having sex for the sake of it and landed up having to go on an antibiotics course - if he had waited for the right person and the right time, his memories would not have been of stinging piss and a weeping "eye".
    It's a moment to be cherished - not an experience worth forgetting.
    Being a virgin is far better if you might have any form of regret.



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