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do you ever get over your first love?
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i have known this guy since i was 14, i really wanted to be with him from then and for the two years after that, then we left school and i didn't see him again until i was 18 and we started hanging out and used to do stuff when we were drunk, i knew he liked me but he had been really hurt by a girl he had been going out with and it made him wary of getting involved with me when he was sober.
i met someone new and started a relationship which i was in for a couple of years (he never got on with my bf) then when it finished he was round like a shot and we talked alot about getting intimate and we both wanted it but it never happened and eventually i moved away for a new start. we stayed in touch over texts and we both moved on with new partners - although i never really stopped thinking about him in a romantic way and often dreamed about the two of us together, which would then mess up my whole day coz i wouldnt be able to stop thinking about him.
he recently got in touch to say he is getting married and having a baby and i just can't stop thinking about him or dreaming about him and my BF has noticed that things aren't right between us.
any advice or thoughts would really be appreciated- im a mess.
i met someone new and started a relationship which i was in for a couple of years (he never got on with my bf) then when it finished he was round like a shot and we talked alot about getting intimate and we both wanted it but it never happened and eventually i moved away for a new start. we stayed in touch over texts and we both moved on with new partners - although i never really stopped thinking about him in a romantic way and often dreamed about the two of us together, which would then mess up my whole day coz i wouldnt be able to stop thinking about him.
he recently got in touch to say he is getting married and having a baby and i just can't stop thinking about him or dreaming about him and my BF has noticed that things aren't right between us.
any advice or thoughts would really be appreciated- im a mess.
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But if you're thinking about them and wishing you'd gone with them then it could be a sign of problems in your current relationship.
generally you get over them when you fall in love with someone else.
You have to try and get past it because hes moved on, hes happy and he never really wanted that with you. You WILL get over it.
Getting over someone takes tiiiiiimmeeee its such a long and boring process.
I haven't spoken to him in three and a half years anyway, since I finally realised that he really IS a complete and utter cock.