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Breast fed in public,
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Not sure if it's here or anything goes which is best but would like some opinions.
My partner breast feeds, Good ol'chap my boy is and gets fed when he wants, but it seems to me alot of people comment, give us weird looks and are downright disrespectful about it, tbh I can understand people saying go to the toilet but it's not nice when the toilets are scummy, dirty and horrible for my son to eat in there, would you eat in the toilets?
So are you one of these people that comment, give dirty looks or hate parents doing it?
For example on our flight the other day Laura was feeding during take off to help calm him, Flight attentdant gave us the worst possible look I could see imaginable,
as far as I am awaire it's illegal to ask anyone in scotland to stop, but im unsure about England or wales,
My partner breast feeds, Good ol'chap my boy is and gets fed when he wants, but it seems to me alot of people comment, give us weird looks and are downright disrespectful about it, tbh I can understand people saying go to the toilet but it's not nice when the toilets are scummy, dirty and horrible for my son to eat in there, would you eat in the toilets?
So are you one of these people that comment, give dirty looks or hate parents doing it?
For example on our flight the other day Laura was feeding during take off to help calm him, Flight attentdant gave us the worst possible look I could see imaginable,
as far as I am awaire it's illegal to ask anyone in scotland to stop, but im unsure about England or wales,
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But yea, people shouldn't give you dirty looks, but then again I'm not sure I agree with mothers who argue they should have everyone smiling with them when they're breastfeeding in a very posh / snazzy restaurant because it may spoil some of the atmosphere for some. (And the 'who cares' attitude is quite selfish)
But a plane is fine I only mean things where you make a big effort to go out (as have others who will be there) and then don't bother to be discrete about it. It's the same 'I'm a mother and I can do what I like' attitude that when in a queue or in town I get prams pushed into me because they're too important to go round or say 'excuse me'. (Of course I'm not referring to you or lolz hellfire , just some of the ones in Leicester :grump: ). The other day I had that sick sinking feeling you get in your stomach when witnessing a mother literally dragging her 4 year old with a face that showed she was a few inches away from *actually* beating the living daylights out of him.
i breastfeed too and if im in public when he needs feeding then i will do it. i havent had any bad comments. i have had a few people ay encouraging things though which has been lovely and supportive.
I remember trying to feed Abbie in a Throntons Cafe once and I had 3 old grannies sitting grinning at me the whole time telling me how wonderful I was!
i wouldn't mind anyone else doing it - each to their own. its only natural when all said and done.
Ive had others just give me a smile and then carry on. I find it really nice actually and makes me feel more positive about doing it.
As for getting your tits out in public, its never really like that. You cant really see anything most of the time when someone feeds. I choose my clothes carefully if im going out so that ill be able to feed discretely, more for my own comfort level than anything. You can never see any boob, but can often see my tummy when my top is pulled up a bit but thats about it.
As for breastfeeding on a plane, thats a really good idea for take off and landing as itll stop babies ears from popping.
but as if we're out shopping, she'd do it on the bench etc in the park,
Shyboy, i hate mothers like that too, don't worry
"Yeah I know, but there's a baby sucking on it."
Our restaurant has a certificate on the wall to say we're breastfeeding friendly. I've yet to actually see anyone breastfeeding. Not that I look out for it or anything, but I guess most people are pretty discreet about it. Another one of those bullshit reasons to take a dislike to something based on absolutely nothing if you ask me.
I wouldnt feed my baby in a public toilet on principle. Thats disgusting. I dont even like feeding in baby changing rooms as they usually stink of shit.
Most of the time the only people that notice are mothers whove done it themselves, and thats because they recognise how youre holding the baby, not because they can see any breast. For most people it just looks like youre cuddling baby on your lap.
Not enough ffs.
I don't have an issue with it... It's kinda endearing. I mean they're only breasts and that's what they're there for if you think about it. Are people somehow sexualising breastfeeding or something? Could it be a symptom of objectification/sexualising of the woman's body?
It's an interesting reaction and it's sad that some women are getting people saying stuff to them. I mean raising a kid can't be easy and when they gotta eat they gotta eat.
Not like it's unhygenic or anything.
here ya go then
Nope, people that get offended/outraged at things in general piss me off. Breast feeding in public is pretty much at the bottom of things to get offended over.
It looks more like the child is just having a cuddle/sleeping to me.
I think people who are offended at the sight of a nursing mother are mentally ill, and should be treated as such. A nice spot of ECT should do the trick.
I think ECT would be better.
seems like theres more than one name for it.
smartarse