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Are you crazy about your partner?
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But as well as my boyfriend he is my best friend, and must be informed of every aspect of my life, from, "oh dear, I have bumped the car" to "I have just been to get some milk."
I have to agree with Dobbin, perhaps you arent experiencing all the feelings. It sounds like he is more like a friend. You need to decide if it is something you think you can work on, and if not, then it is best not to lead him on really.
I definitely get what you're saying about the more muted feelings and attitude to the relationship maybe being a more grown up way of feeling. I know in the past I've gone arse over tit and been completely swamped in thoughts of them and found it difficult to manage my feelings/time/emotions because I've been so utterly... involved. So in that sense I feel like it's not necessarily a bad thing to be desperately longing for them when you don't see them for a week or something. I think there does come a point where a lot of people become able to balance their interest in your other half/feelings for them with the rest of your life and with thoughts of other things. If that makes sense. I guess it just depends if you're looking for level-headed love or wild, crazy love. They both have advantages, it's definitely food for thought.
That said, it's definitely important to feel a yearning to see them and spend time with them. If you'd as soon see your mates or family members then maybe that does say something about the attachment you have to him and what his role is in your life. If you're not bothered one way or the other about seeing him weekly or whatever then maybe something is up. Alternatively, if you don't see him all that frequently then it could just be that you haven't had the time to develop those strong feelings... or that you're in fact holding back a bit because you know it's not one of those 'all or nothing', star-crossed lover type deals. There's nothing wrong with that as long as you feel there is potential for your feelings to develop further, and you aren't starting to feel the wanderlust and want to be back out playing the field again.
I get where you're coming from, though, I've felt like this in the past... for what it's worth it always has developed into something stronger.
I hate being apart from him for long.
I do always get her to ring when she gets where she's going, otherwise I'd worry that she'd been killed/raped/abducted by aliens/become a Leeds fan/other.
It's nice to get all the quilt for once
I suppose I do get grumpy if I'm not seeing him for a few days, but I'm always in a good mood as soon as I do see him.
Before we got together, I'd spoken about my future plans. (I was due to be off in Bristol that year, and she was going back to her hometown of Manchester the end of season) We did have some doubts getting together as to how that would work. That didn't spoil our enjoyment, though. I was absolutely crazy about her. Everything I did and everything that happened, she was the first person I told. We saw each other practically every single day, and I was getting plenty of messages late at night saying "I miss you" when I wasn't there.
It was all great. Until, that is, I came back to her place one night after work and found her shagging another bloke. That put a dampener on things, and the relationship was over. I've since forgiven her for doing that, but the chance of us getting back together is zero. Shame - we had something good going.
Means the absolute world to me, and however shit work or other stuff gets, knowing she's my girlfriend helps me get through. I care about her so much, not even in a selfish wanting her to be mione way, but in a wondering what she's doing and hoping she's safe way too.
Seeing her in like 10 hours though :hyper:
He works nightshift every few weeks and I enjoy having the bed to myself and sleeping like a starfish