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I have a close friend I know from my time in a psychiatric unit. She's very unwell, and has confided detailed plans of a suicide attempt. I know from experience, that talking about suicide, in most cases, leads to an attempt. She has a history of suicide attepts, self harm and anorexia, so I'm really worried. She told be on the condition that I wouldn't tell anyone, and I don't want to betray her, but I really feel like she's a danger to herself. Any ideas about what I should do?
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Of course, your betrayal will prove she has no real friends.
If she hates you then that's her loss but i think if i was her that eventually i would realise that you was a true friend and cared about me. She'd thank you in time.
Either way whatever you do the regret you would feel if she killed herself will be with you forever because you would know that if you had told someone she could still be here today.
There's a question relating to a very similar issue in the askTheSite Q&A archive. There's lots of useful advice which you can find here.
Take good care x
Someone was in the same situation a few years ago when I was that suicidal person. I wrote up these huge plans, with diagrams, on how I was going to kill myself. Of course, some of the plans were so ludicrous they'd never have worked, but never mind. I showed them to someone, who was worried. They later went to speak to my GP. Apparently, he said this was very worrying, but unless I went in myself, he could do nothing. And that's one thing I'm saying - even if you tried to get help, it may not be enough. Often the person has to do the 'seeking out' themselves.
I'm sorry if this makes no sense, I'm just tipsy.
I regret not doing something to prevent it.
It could just be a cry for attention, but ofcourse there is a possibility they could be being serious.
Still, just do your best to be there.
But really, if someone actualyl wants to die, let them.
Why?
I would personally tell someone so that you friend can get the help they need - even if they ask you not too.
Jonny8888, the thing is, lots of people who survived a near fatal attempt, regretted what they did
from the article above
so dreamy_me, keep talking to your friend, show you care, BUT, do follow **Helen**'s and others advice, you do not have to deal with this on your own
take care