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I think it's a girl thing
We're obviously very different, if someone sent me Travis lyrics I'd be deeply insulted.
That's your reply to everything I say.
No I'm gonna go and get pizza with my best mate tonight and have a bit of a bitch
Although, if I was in that specific situation I'd almost certainly go and chat to them, as like you said they were there to meet new people and that would have been my purpose and I'd not have wasted the evening!
On, the other hand I saw a gorgeous girl out at the weekend, who was sat drinking with her friend - I so wanted to go and buy her a drink or just say something and for crying out loud I just couldn't...
...whereas another week I'll end up chatting with complete strangers.
Such is my life.
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yeah, i was gonna say along the same lines...so box you've never met anyone you thought was fit who wasnt drunk or high?
Also, we keep being told that this is the age of equality, and that women can also make the first move nowadays. Another reason for us men not to!
Sorry, bit wasted last night. :yes:
Poor fella.
I honestly can't see what the trouble is with approaching a group of women who you know are there to chat to single, available men. Chatting to women isn't like 'getting blood out of a stone'. If you are interested in what a women has to say, act genuine, and make an effort, I reckon that counts for more than being able to crack off witty one-liners and having them all rolling about laughing (not that this doesn't help). If you think any woman would give abuse to a guy for making an effort, particularly in the kind of environment the OP mentioned, that's just silly.
Fair enough, in the age of gender equality there is nothing to say women can't make the first move, but it also doesn't mean that men shouldn't.
i hate men :angel:
Are you on crack?
no i work in a bar and get this daily :rolleyes:
Ok but what's that got to do with the thread?
erm that men are terrible at chatting up anyway!
lol yes thats true. it has definatly led me to have an unreasonable hatred of men. but then again i'm just calling it as i see it
But men in bars, with their mates, and a few beers in them, generally tend to act differently than they would if they were by themselves, sober, drinking coffee. But still, even men with their mates etc can be ok.
Pretty much every time I pull, it's either started as a random chat at the bar about whatever or girls who happen to be sitting/dancingnext to us and things go from there. Maybe I'm just remarkably funny or charming (unlikely, haha) but this whole going over to people with the sole intention of chatting them up isn't something I've ever really done.
The whole speed-dating thing is really contrived anyway, and just reeks of desperation. Jesus, I've not got much interesting to say for myse and I'm not much special but surely if you just talk to them like you'd talk away to any other new people then you've got half the battle won. Fucking hell, you don't even realise it's a battle half the time, I never go out on the pull with my mates, I go out with my mates to socialise with them and others.
Also, people who seriously try and use chat-up lines need their head read. Fair enough after a few drinks if you use one in a really sarcastic and piss-taking way then maybe it might be alright, but there's still gormless blokes out there who've watched too many premium lager adverts who think shit like this works.