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personally i dont see the point in spendin all that money just for a piece of paper to show your love and commitment to somebody, mind you im still young yet il prob want to get married when i get to my 30's lol
How come ?
If two people lived together and had children, do you really think the children would know their parents weren't married.
Married or not, the parents would still give them the love an affection of a married couple.
I would disagree...I don't think a peice of paper (binding or not) a few sausage rolls and a cheesy DJ shows any more of a long-term commitment than not getting married.
Not really true that.
But different strokes and all that :thumb:
Eh ?
Sorry what I meant to say was I doubt children would actually care if their parents were married. I think the most important thing is that both parents are there for them.
Each to their own though :thumb:
Well what Stargalaxy is saying is true, when you're not married you have no rights to the other person's wealth or anything like that, if your partner walked away you could well be left with nothing.
I think there are alot of different opinions which all have merit, my choice would definitely be to get married though, not for the wedding but for what it means.
Just make sure your future partner realises that you dont actually MEAN forever when you promise it and that your idea of marriage is more along the lines of Elizabeth Taylor and Joan Collins ideas than what its always supposed to have been.
I think when youve gone through your first heartbreak and especially your first divorce you might change your tune a bit.
Kinda takes away from the romance of it all, doesn't it?!
"Will you marry me? Not that I'm completely in love with you or anything, I just want to make sure I get the car if you fall for the postie"
You get tax concessions if you're married too, as opposed to cohabiting, so financially it makes sense. But good god wouldn't that be a soul-destroying ceremony?
i don't think you do get tax concessions for being married in this country, they did away with it i'm sure. Correct me if i'm wrong someone
Correct... they were disposed of a few years ago...
I think you're probably spot on.
In fact, not just my parents, but my entire extended family are all happily married, and growing up I guess it was presented to me in such a way that it was never a question of if I'd get married, but when, and who to.
I mean, I'm not going to get married just for the sake of a nice dress and a big party, I'll do it for the right reasons, but I can't imagine the kind of pride I'd feel at being able to refer to someone I loved totally as my husband.
Plus I hate my surname
I think that coming from a divorced family at least makes you more cautious or maybe even cynical about the idea of marriage and its likelihood of surviving. My boyfriend's parents had a very messy separation and divorce when he was about 22, and I remember him waxing lyrical once about what's the point of marriage when you can throw it all down the pan after 30 years.
That said, we've been together over 6 years, lived together for nearly 3, and I think we'll probably get engaged pretty soon afteer we've got ourselves sorted into a place of our own and are in a position to start planning a wedding. I think we've got as much chance as anyone else of making it through
I'm not quite sure how to phrase this so it doesn't come out all wrong, but I'm fairly neutral about marriage, in that I certainly don't believe that it's essential for any successful long term partnership and I really wouldn't mind if my boyfriend 'didn't believe in it' and wasn't interested in getting married at all, but it is kind of icing on the cake and agree with Butterfly Kisses that declaring our love and commitment for one another would be a wonderful thing. Also, because it is possible to be in a long term relationship and live with one another without getting married, the decision shouldn't be taken lightly. If you don't mean the vows, why say 'em?
I think if you are together for a long number of years and you have kids its probably wise to get married purely for the legal stuff, otherwise if one person dies it could easily get nasty.
But i would really like to get married someday to some one i really like and not just for money or anything although i'm sure i would be tempted easily
Not something I want to think about for a few years yet though.