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Is this bit too long for POTW? :chin:
I reckon that bit would do. :thumb: Really lovely.
To be honest I don't really understand about this 'worrying' about appearance. Some days I look in the mirror and I think 'Shit I look like someone's added my face on as an after-thought'... Sometimes I feel self-concious about certain areas of my body, like my arse. But I can't say I worry about it. I mean bits aren't gunna suddenly drop off or explode... that would be worrying. :nervous:
Even if I'm having one of those days where I feel I should wear a paper-bag over my head it sort of washes over me... cos at the end of the day it's not that important; and I know that I'm most likely being way more critical of myself than anyone else would be and focusing on the parts which no-one else is looking at.
Rachael, I sympathise with the looking young for your age... The other week at work a woman walked into the changing rooms where I was on duty, and she said to her daughter 'Oh god, see she's wearing the same top as this and she looks about 12!' I couldn't believe how fucking rude some people are... I think it's jealousy to be honest. I just laugh it off if I get comments. But I still sometimes feel like people don't take me as seriously and I have to ward off feeling inferior.
:eek2: Some people are just horrid.
I've always been comfortable with who I am, sure I may be a wee runt but fuck it, no one's perfect...except Maggie Thatcher. Phwoar!
Ahh I feel your pain!
The hairdresser the other day didn't speak one word to me while she was doing my hair. Then when I go to pay says 'how old are you?' - 20. 'Ohh I'm so sorry..I thought you were much younger!'..So if I hadnt looked like I was a kid she would have had the politeness to converse with me? Some folk piss me off so much.
saaame .. sometimes i think i might go a bit over board with my eye make up as well and i hate random period/ drinking spots !
I'm not happy with the way I look but I don't really care. I like my face, and I like my hair. I like my boobs, and my legs from the knees down, arms from the elbows down. It's the bit in the middle that I don't like. That's just on looks though (which I guess is what this thread is about :razz:) My body works fine, I bet I can open just as many jars of beetroot as briggi can etc. I'm unfit at the moment, but I know I can be fit and I enjoy exercise.
I do worry about the way I look because I worry that people will judge me as someone not worthy of talking to/being friends with based on the fact that I'm a bit of a fattie. In some ways though that is my own prejudice against myself talking and I have found that the friends I do have at uni really couldn't give a fuck about my appearance and they like me because I'm me (and I'm a regular bringer of polos to boring lectures), and have enough (unfounded) worries about their bodies themselves.
I'm me, I'm happy. My boyfriend both loves me and fancies me, clothes fit me - although I'm never going to be able to dress like many of the posters on here because clothes like that just do not suit me and I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing them anyway. I'm very strong (muscularly) and when I am fit I am pretty quick at kayaking and I enjoy it. I don't get cold easily in winter either
I do like my boobs though.
I also get the young thing. A bit less, these days, but I do remember sitting in the waiting room of the hopsital ultrasound department last year, listening to a couple of middle aged women discussing me, and saying how terrible teenage pregnancy was, and how 'they seem to get themselves in trouble younger and younger these days, tut tut etc'.
I briefly considered beating them about the face with a copy of Yorkshire Life, or Ultrasound Today (or any of the generally uninteresting printed crap you find in medical waiting rooms) while informing them that not only was I not pregnant (p.s. thanks for jumping to outrageous conclusions, people have other things scanned too y'know), but I was 25, and lots of people planned families and whatnot at my age.
I didn't though. Just calmed myself by imagining they were having either their brains or their fashion sense scanned, presumably to find out if they were still there.
I try to keep good skin, even tho it's hard with my sensitive and constantly dry skin.
I try to have my hair look ok. I am not anywhere near obsessed with it, but I hate it, how the dudes selling your computer parts in those shops always have their hair pressed to the head on one side (the side they slept on) and have them pointing away the other head. It looks like you get up and don't even take a glance in the mirror before leaving your house. Well, I do not hate it on them, but I'd hate to have an ungroomed hairdo like that.
I am actually content with myself, since I can't change the other things, like my snow-white skin that just doesn't want to tan. Or my physique, since I am way to skinny, but just can't get weight. I'm like my father when he was my age, he got stronger in his late 20s however.
I even sometimes put on clothes and change them immediately after again, to try a bit out, before going out at night
I do not think I am exaggerating my ambition to look half-way decent (with the things I am able to change or alter. decent on a relative scale)
/e: and@wyetry: I am looking for reassurance as well. Maybe not that much, and I don't feel bad in my skin, but I do feel better if someone mentions/compliments something on me I put thought into.
@briggi: you are on my top3 list of the most gorgeous people on thesite :thumb: so I am glad you are not worrying much
I don't suppose being stuck in a room with a bunch of girls all day helps though (and most of the girls on my course are slim and pretty, just to be annoying. If they weren't all lovely girls, I'd of snapped their little stick wrists by now)
I sometimes hate my pale skin, especially in the summer when everyone is tanned. If i get a tan i just look like i haven't washed for a year. But it can be a blessing too, i have to look after it more so it will probably age slower.
Sure, I sometimes have my bad days and sometimes there are days I feel like I'm the most stunning thing on Earth. I feel more good than bad now, especially after I stopped picking myself apart. It doesn't help with anything and I much prefer spotting my good bits anyway.
I care, but not as much about what others think and rather how I feel about myself.
Roger McGough
omg you are me! i do that too - all my friends think im vein, but i think i look rubbish most of the time but wheni look decent (which is normally when im goin with my friends) i quite often look at myself to check im still looking alrite and seeing myself looking good!
I worry that ill get bags under my eyes, I worry that my legs are fat, I worry that I have scars from spots, or the spots i have are huge and bllindingly obvious to every. I think im too tall (im actually 5"8" but most of my gal mates r short so i feel like a giant!). I worry that people are looking at my lazy eye. I worry that im frowning when im perfectly content inside! worry I slouch. I realllllly worry about my hair going grey and curly, so ill have to cut it all off the be in a short bob. I worry that my lips crack.
But again, i do not worry abot all these things all the time. I dont constantly worry about the way i look.
If you speak the way you write I can understand why eeessshhh.
Occaisionally I'll look down at my stomach, think shit when did that appear? resolve to cut down on the crap I eat and then forget about it 5 minutes later. It really is my only dislike area I think, but it will never go, even when I was verging on a 6 pack it was still there, that bit below my belly button.
I am going to do something about it though starting next week (back at home, so I don't need to think about food on the go) as Dad asked if I'd put weight on on Sunday, and I'm planning on wearing a bikini abroad this summer. Maybe I have put weight on, I can't tell, I could just be filling out. :chin:
im always thinking about whether i look fat wearing a certain top - if my bum looks big etc etc
thats probably a big reason why i find it really hard to make eye contact with a lot of people (for more than like 5 seconds!) im always worried theyre looking at me and thinking that i look awful and judging me (which i know most of the time theyre not!!)
i know i AM being paranoid, but i cant help it!!
im hoping ill feel better withmyself as i get older (and lose weight!!) but only time will tell!!