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Worrying About Your Appearance
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Do you ever spend time worrying about the way you look? :impissed: if you do, what do you worry about?
I do, and it annoys me, I mean obviously I don't think about it all the time and it doesnt affect my life, haha, but I think quite a lot about the fact that i might be getting wrinkles under my eyes, im quite scared of aging! also i worry about wearing a good bra and stuff and making sure my boobs dont go yuck and saggy when im old (haha not that theres owt wrong now) just that i saw this cosmetic surgery programme the other day and this woman was 40 and her boobs were proper mingin. it scared me!
I suppose this thread is mainly aimed at girlies but i know boys worry too! my best mate is constantly messing about with his hair and worrying if it looks good, hehe!
hmm I think this thread made me sound like im vain and obsessed with myself but im really not :thumb: just things i think about!
I do, and it annoys me, I mean obviously I don't think about it all the time and it doesnt affect my life, haha, but I think quite a lot about the fact that i might be getting wrinkles under my eyes, im quite scared of aging! also i worry about wearing a good bra and stuff and making sure my boobs dont go yuck and saggy when im old (haha not that theres owt wrong now) just that i saw this cosmetic surgery programme the other day and this woman was 40 and her boobs were proper mingin. it scared me!
I suppose this thread is mainly aimed at girlies but i know boys worry too! my best mate is constantly messing about with his hair and worrying if it looks good, hehe!
hmm I think this thread made me sound like im vain and obsessed with myself but im really not :thumb: just things i think about!
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I wouldn't say I spend loads of time worrying about the way I look but sometimes, I am a bit obsessive about my weight and stuff. I'm only a size 12 but sometimes I have fat days. Most of my friends are skinnier than me so its just something that occasionally gets to me.
I'm a bit funny about my hair but only because sometimes its just a complete and utter mess. I mean, if I go somewhere outside, I have to brush it when I get indoors because it feels knotty. Sounds strange I know!
I'm not vain though :no:
But seriously, my weight is one of my biggest concerns closely followed by my complexion (pimples scare me
I'm not making any sense....i should shut up now!
I'm just weird!
i'm not as bad when i'm in, sat in my jim jams.....but when i go out and i'm surrounded by slim, stunning girls, it can get to me
I think it's cause I've lost about 2 stone since I did pills and that and I don't wobble as much as I did back in November. :razz:
ETA - One thing I DO worry about is crows feet around my eyes - I'm ALWAYS laughing when in company of my pals, and if I'm drunk or under the influence, it'll be even more chuckle sessions, thus the chances of the crows feet appearing are greater. I'm gonny have to start using wrinkle cream soon I reckon.
I worry about being large - not even fat - just i'm tall and in proportion so I look ok on my own but next to a small in proportion person i'm like some wired giant person...
I worry i'm getting wrinkles
I worry i have cellulite
I worry my skin is going all weird and i might hve to start shock horror wearing foundation....
I worry that if i have children my body will be even more ruined than it is now
I worry that i'm not that pretty
I worry that my nails aren't perfect
I worry that my hair will go grey at some point and then it will have to be dyed/cut looked after or a regular basis.
I worry that my clothes aren't fashionable enough or are too fashionable and at the moment becuase i've not invested in my wardrobe for so long that they are now just all falling apart.
I worry that if i wear non sensible shoes that my feet will be ruined but that if i wear sensible ones i'll look stupid and when i buy any shoes sensible or not they inevitably give me bilsters and ruin them anyway.
Worst of all i worry that i might wake up one day and have turned into my mother...
However my biggest worry is that i dont' have the time nor money to address any of the above!
Yet oddly i love looking at myself in pictures and the mirror and whilst i spend quite a lot of time looking at my bad points I also spend quite a lot of time realising that I am actually beautiful...
I actually think that's a pretty good attitude to have. It's better to be fitter than you think you are than not as fit as you think you are.
It's cute as fuck when a bird doesn't know if she looks alright or not, but is actually pretty fucking stunning :yes:
Can't say I've ever met a girl like this who doesn't do the whole "I don't look great. Compliment me/reassure me please" thing.
All girls like compliments sure, but you can tell the ones who really appreciate it from the ones who get them all the time and let it go to their heads. Usually cause they give a cute smile and take a beamer, which like I say is cute as fuck.
Its true I do that all the time - but there is nothing wrong with wanting reassurance is there? (mind you I know by now exactly what i do look like so i wouldn't even belive someone who said i was stunningly beautiful)
Though i guess its quite bad if someone really isn't and you have to say of course your stunning - when really they arn't - that must be a bit tireing.
Well, yeah, since it pretty much means you're insecure :razz:
I either look like a just got out of bed or i look amazing (not very often, as im too lazy for hair and make up)....so when i get dressed up and do my make up people are usually shocked and like "oh Amira...WOW" Enough said for me....but saying that i know when i look good and only expect il hubby to compliment me.
Ahh but thats the difference between boys and girls - I think that girls no matter how pretty they do or dont' think they are will always want someone to tell them that they are good looking - it doesn't necessarily mean we are insecure it just means that we like people saying nice stuff about us. The problem is that boys just dont' work like that - so we have to prompt you to say it by asking the question.
The probelm comes when your boyfriend is the only one in the house and you acutaly do need someones opinon on something and then your both confused as to what to answer - should he say yes you look lovely when you might not do so - becuase thats the answer one wants to hear or should he tell you to do somethign different and your sitting there thinking humm - is he telling me the truth or just trying to make me feel better.
Obviously this is why girls are evil fickle creatures - becuase one question can have many different meanings behind it....
I worry about my lips, because they're too big, and they point downwards, so I permanently look miserable even when I'm not.
I worry about my make-up not looking right and worry when my hair's not right.
I love my face and appreciate it, because it's not at all ugly and it feels good when I get looked at by men.
But, I do worry about my size far too much, instead of doing something about it (which I am determined to do).
Once I've lost the weight, I'll be frigging perfect in my eyes.
Although it's somewhat disconserting to hear from men and women that I've got 'blow job lips' :eek:
It was said to me beforehand and I always thought 'aye, reet' but having babies has changed the way I feel. Two living beings came out of my body - I'm sure it counts as a false idol but I worship it
FF I think what you feel is completely natural, we're programmed to see our flaws when they're immensely outweighed by the fabulous and beautiful things about ourselves. Accentuate the positive, as someone said... sometime. Always worth remembering... even if it is a moot point, you're gorgeous anyway
When I was younger I felt I was treated differently because I looked 'foreign'. It continued into my early teen years when I was followed by a man because he thought I was Italien and wanted to chat to me. In secondary school I remember two girls asking in the library if I spoke English. When I didn't reply straight away one of them said 'I told you!'.
Now I worry about the fact I look so young. Everyone says that I'll be chuffed when I'm old and look young but it really doesn't help now. I was dating someone a while ago and we were walking holding hands and someone actually shouted 'paedo' at him. I was 19 and he was 21. Not exactly paedo material. Plus you get the 'awwhs' from people who are younger than you and the ID checks no matter how often you go to a certain club/pub.
I'm so glad your babies have you for a Mam, you're a fucking diamond!
Aww
Rach I know this is what you're expecting to hear but honestly you SHOULD relish looking young. I look young myself when I'm not all lit up like a Christmas tree and some of the things people say are really strange. I remember bursting into tears in a nightclub a few years back (I know, I was pretty drunk too which didn't help :razz:) because this group of girls had become convinced I wasn't old enough to be in there. Really bizarre. I've had some very negative comments in the hospital concerning "these young mothers" and all that codswallop but it's water off a duck's back by this point. I'm not sure why people zone in on young-looking folk, I guess they just find it interesting and amusing. Ah, they're probably just jealous. Or trying to start a conversation... some people have just got no craic whatsoever
Getting ID'd is a small price to pay for looking fresh and young in my view, though I understand it's a bit of a pain when no one else gets asked. You are under 21 though, so I guess they're doing their legal duty
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.
I will try and perfect the 'I have knowledge, wisdom AND experience' look in my eye. I thought watching Corrie regularly would do the trick but noooo...pft
edit: awh becky, thankoo!
You big cheeseball
Oh, and by the way...
They don't fuck you up, your mum and dad
(Despite what Larkin says)
It's other grown-ups, other kids
Who, in their various ways
Die. And their dying casts a shadow
Numbering all our days
And we try to keep from going mad
In multifarious ways
And most of us succeed, thank God.
So if, to coin a phrase
You're fucked up, don't blame your mum and dad
(Despite what Larkin says)
:thumb:
That's enough out of you! :razz:
Brigs you are awesome this post is amazing. I keep going back to reread it haha. I'd nominate it for post of the week. it truly deserves it except its too long
im glad so many other people worry about stuff. if im honest i worry about a lot more than i wrote in my first post, i just thought I would slim it down a bit