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Ok so my parents are getting divorced as you know. My dads divorcing my mum for adultery because it's quicker and she can't afford to pay for the divorce. In 1 bit it asks them to state if they're co-habiting/in a relationship with someone else etc. They both put no, but my dads living with his gf and he put no because he said they'd want all her details and it would just mean more time and paper work. But i'm wondering if they took her details (income) into account, my mum might get more out of it?
Atm my mums allowed to stay here till my brothers 18 (he's 15). She'll get £5k when the divorce is finalised and another £10k when she leaves the house. She currently owns her parents house but they're still living there - which is worth roughly £120k. Neither of the houses have been valued yet. My brother and I get to keep everything in our rooms and mum gets everything in hers, everything else belongs to dad but he's letting mum take what she wants because he's already got a new house. She's going to get advice from a solicitor but i'm just wondering if my dads gfs details will make a difference or not?
Atm my mums allowed to stay here till my brothers 18 (he's 15). She'll get £5k when the divorce is finalised and another £10k when she leaves the house. She currently owns her parents house but they're still living there - which is worth roughly £120k. Neither of the houses have been valued yet. My brother and I get to keep everything in our rooms and mum gets everything in hers, everything else belongs to dad but he's letting mum take what she wants because he's already got a new house. She's going to get advice from a solicitor but i'm just wondering if my dads gfs details will make a difference or not?
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she doesn't have any kids
I also found out the other day that it doesn't matter how long you have been seperated for, if you have a relationship with another person before you are divorced it can be considered as 'adultery'.
Makes no sense whatsoever to me...
Im not sure but i doubt they would look at the GFs income. I reckon it would be an assesment of income/assets etc at the time of separation, although im not sure.
I think seeing the solicitor is the best idea, you mum could always ask 'hypatheticall' what would be the scenario if your dad had a gf etc.
well she's just bought a house that they're moving into this weekend, and she bought a new car last month too - so she's certainly not short. But seeing as there's not legal relationship between them then i'm not sure if they will take her into consideration. But why ask?
My parents are mostly sorting this between themselves, but my mum doesn't understand what she's entitled to and dad could just be fobbing her off and he's sorting out all the papers. £15k for 18years of marriage and 2 kids doesn't seem a fair pay off to me. Most of it is going towards her pension because she didn't have one until recently.
Fair pay off or not, it depends how much £££ your dad has etc, and also, they could *very well* take into account your mum owns a property even though she doesn't live in it.
I have to ask - what do YOU consider a fair pay-off? Why do you feel she should be entitled to any more if this is all your dad has?
Aye - I don't think they will take his girlfriend into account. If her finances are separate from your dad's then it should have no bearing on things - even if they ARE living together.
Yeah hard to really judge with out knowing the full story :yes:
I regards to the house and car she has bought, if she has bought them in her name not jointly with your dad (referring mainly to the house) then i can't see what difference that would have.
Exactly - why should the fact that she has a few quid, utterly unrelated to your father, mean that your father should give your mum any more money?
It's just sad when marriages end and all it comes down to is 'How much money can I get?'
That's what i'm trying to find out. Tbh i want my mum to get all the money she can get, as she isn't getting any of the house, and me and my brother are staying with her, she's just getting the contents that she wants because dad already has a new place so doesnt need any. Thats just a dining table thats hers anyway, some chairs, the kitchen table, the sofa and the tv, kettle, microwave and toaster. And he's only divorcing her on adultery to make it quicker, he's not actually accusing her of it.
The reason i feel this way is because my dads intimidated my mum throughout the whole marriage, and even friends are saying they won't be suprising if he tries to give her less than what she's entitled to. Like it's been said, you don't know the whole story. I'm pretty sure my dad cheated in 2004 (they almost split up then but never really got back to normal). But my mum can't afford the divorce, so dads filing for it. I don't see why reasons for the divorce should affect what each party is entitled to.
I honestly think you need to seek professional advice on this one.
My best friend's other half is going through a messy divorce at the moment and it has cost both parties thousands in court fees as madcow ex won't settle (she has filed against him for adultery as well which under normal circumstances isn't the case but 'divorce' circumstances is!)