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What would you do?
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If you were dating a guy...
Who had be chronically unfaithful in his last relationship.
Would you...
Be worried?
Give him a pre-emptive benefit of the doubt?
Or just hope and pray you were woman enough to keep him happy?
To keep him true?
Who had be chronically unfaithful in his last relationship.
Would you...
Be worried?
Give him a pre-emptive benefit of the doubt?
Or just hope and pray you were woman enough to keep him happy?
To keep him true?
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Evidently he was patently unhappy.
I could never condone the fact that he cheated,
but I understand why...
you wana trust him and give him the benifit of the doubt.
but then, trusting him will make it hurt more should he go and cheat one you.
Although,
I went out with someone and unbeknown to me at the time he had cheated on every single one of all his ex-girlfriends. When I found out I was a bit unsure but thought you know what, I'll just go along with it.
Errr in the end he ended up cheating on me too.
BUT. That relationship had its good points and its bad points, and i never would have got to experience the good points if i hadnt given him the benefit of the doubt...
Sorry thats not the most positive story. haha.
If its just once i would definitely give him a chance.
But I hope you're ok.
Did you manage to salvage what was left of your trust?
Theres no condoning it at all, if he wanted to go off with someone else he should have broken up with the person he was with
I wouldn't worry about it. That definately gets you nowhere.
I'd give him benefit of the doubt.
I wouldnt want to be with someone that cheated just because they were unhappy either. Crap excuse.
If youre unhappy with someone you try and sort out problems or leave the person thats making you unhappy, not repeatedly cheat on your partner.
I value fidelity and trust a lot, and whilst i could probably overlook someone having an indiscretion or two in their past, depending on the circumstances at the time. Repeatedly cheating on an ex would send HUGE alarm bells ringing, because the chances are they would do it to you too as soon as the going got tough.
as for my trust errr. well i can probably say its not been restored no. but this is your thread not mine :thumb:
But in my defense, I didn't know he had a girlfriend.
Had I known, nothing would have eventuated.
I could never knowingly pursue a man in a relationship.
Good luck. If you go ahead with seeing him, you really need to make sure that it's the right thing. You can't hold past mistakes over one another.
Did he tell you? in that case it shows he's at least trying to be honest and surely that's a positive start?
If you found out through gfs, bloke mates etc then its likely he can't be trusted and it'll take lot to keep him on the straight and narrow.
But look its life and its something to be enjoyed, if he can bring happiness into your life without bringing more hurt then I say go for it!! You can't stop yourself getting hurt in life but if your prepared for the worse then you'll be laughing soon enough!
He could have easily just kept it to himself and I'd be none the wiser.
It's such a paradox though.
As much as I value and appreciate his decison to tell me,
I can't help but think how blissful I was in my ignorance before I knew.