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Pearly
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Are you, or have you been a young mum?
Is there any advice you wish you'd had when you were pregnant (in terms of the foods you should eat, exercise and so on?), or were there problems you faced that you weren't expecting?
What would you say were the advantages and disadvantages of being a young mum?
A new article to go live soon...I'll keep you posted :thumb:
Is there any advice you wish you'd had when you were pregnant (in terms of the foods you should eat, exercise and so on?), or were there problems you faced that you weren't expecting?
What would you say were the advantages and disadvantages of being a young mum?
A new article to go live soon...I'll keep you posted :thumb:
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Either way, young or old there's a lot of things I wish I'd be told beforehand!
Anything in particular?
Since it's lunchtime and people are eating I better leave it at that
Thank you
what! :nervous:
Oh wow. Good to know! :nervous:
I still get to be a dad someday (maybe!) but without having to give birth and all the stuff that goes with it
I can hardly wait :razz:
KHSS this is very true... I wonder what exactly I'll feel like I'm going to give birth to after two babies have already made an appearance. I shudder to think
As for what I want to know about childbirth and parenthood... well, everything really. But there seems to be nothing you can't find out about in graphic/painstaking detail on the internet (god bless google!) and by asking other mothers. I guess the good and interesting thing about it all [especially in terms of journalism ] is that everyone's experience is so different that you can never learn the definitive answer to anything.
you never said anything about going to the toilet after!
And whats this about a smell, argh dear lord. I'll have to keep my legs shut for the next 17 years!
God when i went to the loo afterwards, thought i was gonna bleed to death, had to stay in there for a while before i could move, luckily the shower was within reach, i stayed in the shower for about an hour. Felt so mingin'. You do get a lovely big nappy type thing, which makes you feel extra mingin'.
I had a C-Section, didn't stop bleeding for about 2 months.
On a brighter note, Breakfast/lunch/tea in bed everyday is great!!
Also, I wish I used Bio-oil from the start of pregnancy!
Oh and i heard you can prevent vaginal tearing by stretching your vagina out with some type of oil about a week before giving birth
It wasnt a pee I was talking about But yeah, I had to pee in the bath cos I had a tear that "didnt need stiching", yeah right.
As for massaging the perineal area with oil, that is supposed to help prevent tearing if you do it daily in the last month or so of pregnancy.
I did it, and didnt tear.
Another glorious thing is that something like 70% of women poo when theyre giving birth
Most people get freaked out by that one, although midwives apparently just clear it up without mentioning it, and most people never know.
I dont know if I did or not, and I never asked!!
Jesus Christ I shouldn't be in this thread! I so so so want kids but reading about birth is just :crazyeyes :shocking:
I suppose ya gotta do it though eh :nervous:
only thing that scares me is the thought of having a section. i probably will need one as i am diabetic and have been warned of this but the thought of it makes me feel sick and it scares me.
I thought i was used to it as i didn't sleep well before but omg its so different.
The fact that you bleed alot after, the fact that if you have a section you aren't meant to drive for 6 weeks.
That when you have had the baby, for at least a day (when this day is depends if it was a natural birth or section ) you fall apart crying at nothing ect.
How your boobs are really sore even if you don't breastfeed.
That will do lol.
I was 23 when i got pregnant.
Bio oil, Helps prevent stetch marks, and makes them less visible, It's a god send, I only used it at the end of pregnancy, as I didn't have any stretch marks til the last month :impissed:
Costs around 8 pound for a small bottle. But, It's well worth it!
I also got a gym membership before i found out i was pregnant and now i'm not sure what exercises i can and can't do.
I'd be happy with any advice tbh, it looks like i'll be doing this mostly alone, and so any first hand experience/advice is always welcome! (I'm glad i found out about this going to the loo afterwards thing :nervous: )
Well hopefully our new article will look to answer some of your questions, so thanks so much for the feedback. I think after reading this thread this morning we may also need an article on the things you may not expect during and after childbirth, as well as this one which is more focused on pregnancy...!
I was at the birth of my sister's baby (she was 19 at the time) and actually it was better experience than I thought it would be - well when she finally gave in and had the epidural. She did lose all dignity though and can't believe how relaxed she was at having everything on show to me, my other sis and my mum!