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Moving in with mates, change of heart
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Situation is, i agreed to move into a student house with 4 other mates.
They have decided they all like a certain house but the problem is, I dont.
None of my mates are from Nottingham whereas I am and they have picked a house in a pretty bad area which would mean we would have prostitutes and drug dealers hanging around right on our doorstep leaving us with no choice but to have to walk past them daily.
Now i would imagine if i dropped out it would make things pretty difficult for them to get that house (its actually a 6 bedroom but the landlord has agreed to let to just 5 people).
So....what to do?
I could quite easily get by living at home next year but i feel like i would be letting my friends down and putting them in the shit by not living with them. I dont fancy living in a slum with a high chance of getting mugged often either though.
They have decided they all like a certain house but the problem is, I dont.
None of my mates are from Nottingham whereas I am and they have picked a house in a pretty bad area which would mean we would have prostitutes and drug dealers hanging around right on our doorstep leaving us with no choice but to have to walk past them daily.
Now i would imagine if i dropped out it would make things pretty difficult for them to get that house (its actually a 6 bedroom but the landlord has agreed to let to just 5 people).
So....what to do?
I could quite easily get by living at home next year but i feel like i would be letting my friends down and putting them in the shit by not living with them. I dont fancy living in a slum with a high chance of getting mugged often either though.
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At some point you are going to have to move out of home, and life will get less cushy, and you will need someone cheap, which tends to mean the less solubrius neighbourhoods.
That said it's your money and your life so your call, you need to make the decision for you, not your mates.
When the guy was showing us around the house he actually said to us "if the girls that live here say anything bad about the place just ignore them because they're liars.." i mean wtf, thats not a good thing to hear is it!?
i resent that comment!
Icey- I would have made it clearer sooner. If you really don't want to live there however then don't. Maybe explain that you have a bad jist about the house and try and get them to continue looking for a house..otherwise you'll have to back out I guess.
You have to do what is best for you. If you think you would be better living at home then go for it.
Your mates can easily find someone else, (its not hard in Notts, loads of students)
But dont let living in a ruff area put you off having a good time living with your mates. I missed out on a year living with my mates in Notts and would do anything to get that year back.
Make your decission based on whats best for you and nobody else :thumb:
Least you have to playing fields near by (but dont go after dark).
If your sure you want to drop out, try putting some notices around uni etc, and see if you can get someone to replace you.
But dont drop out just cos of the area. I was bricking it when i first arrived in Nottingham, (I hadnt seen a prostitute in my life until i moved to Notts) It really isnt as bad as it first seems
Remember dont sweat the small stuff, just enjoy it while it lasts.
All the best
Its got a bad reputation, but i have never had any problems in Notts.
Im thinking of moving back there! Guess it just like any big city (but with more burglars)
I don't think you should think you should rule out living with friends when you haven't actually told them how you feel about this place.
Do a bit of a search yourself in the areas you like, find out when you're mates are free and book some viewings. Take the innitative.
Not neccesarily a bad thing having drug dealers around lol
If you're ready to leave and were really up for it before you found the house ure gonna live in then definately suggest to them to move elsewhere, you could miss out on some great times otherwise!
Good luck with finding somewhere nicer.
Man, fat better craic in a student house, parties galore. Yip ya! :thumb:
Yeah I think I'd probably just move in anyway, I doubt it'll be that bad.
Just carry a knife and some knuckle dusters on you at all times.
Good choice. When i first saw the area i was a bit shocked. Prostitutes and dealers wasnt what i was used to.
But once you live there you will reliase it isnt that bad. After all you will be living with mates and having a laugh. Thats the main thing
In the four years i lived in the area, i never had any problems. Hope it all goes well mate :thumb:
your a student, you'll be fine.