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If you stick around long enough, you'll see this sort of thing happens from time to time.
Well perhaps but would I want to stay? I'm seen some very concerning posts from different people. I thought I would come here to make friends, but do I not risk the fear of becoming more depressed, being attacked, flamed or have major problems with people?
I don't want to be pessimistic and all but I'm not feeling on top of the world anyway and seeing - and hearing about (live with a TheSite veteran) - problems is a little disconcerting.
I wait in eagerness for the "if you don't like the programme, change the channel" post.
Sorry. I know that's not arguing my case but I honestly expect it.
Sometimes harsh words are need, but there have been instance in the past where it's gone beyond that and there are a few examples of bullying and public humiliation to found. It's something I find disapointing.
In general I think this is a good place though, else I wouldn't have wasted (what is probably) hundreds of hours posting over the last 6-7 years.
This place goes through cycles, you'll see that if your here long enough. You just have to take the good with the bad - and try not to be one of those causing the bad.
Seriously, just don't be a fucking idiot and you'll fine.
It's usually when folk come on and spam the boards or are blatently bullshitting that they get flamed. Or when people give them advice time after time and they just don't listen, then come back a week later with the same problem.
ah yeh but after gettin the lowdown on what that was all about you can only laugh and let them get on with it. maybe thesite shouldnt rule their lives so much.
Oh....well on to problem number two then....
Don't tell me you didn't see it coming (pun not intended)
Unless you're Arnold Schwarzenegger in the film Junior, then you've got nothing to worry about :razz:
And to be honest Pah1986, the person you live with has mellowed a lot, but in the past has been very bad in their treatment of new users, including some of those mentioned in this thread. Thankfully that doesn't really happen anymore, today's thread in sex not withstanding.
So depsite Rise & Shine's strange belief he has the right to flame people (he doesn't and he'll be banned for it) and nmm's long standing view about these boards (too many opinions, not enough games), the truth is many people have benefitted for being here.
It isn't always a perfect place, and it certainly isn't a place where people will always get on - after all this isn't a place people have come to due to a common interest or through a particular group of friends - but it is a place where the vast majority of people do support and help each other.
As you can already see what began as complaints about the flaming of new users has already turned into people having a go AT new users. So it's always a balance to get things right.
Now, I personally think NMM's view of the boards is almost entirely wrong, and have in pretty much everything he's brought to the mods attention - but that's not to say flaming isn't delt with (you've only got to look at the bannings that followed the Hellfire thread in question) and isn't treated seriously.
This is a site made of many different people, and there will always be disagreements and challenges presented when people provide advice. Don't let the views of one old user put you off thesite.
And if you're curious take a look back a few years to see just how unpleasant and bitchy the boards used to be - people always tend to look back with extremely rose-tinted specs.
Um...where exactly have I said that?
As I said to you in the PM (Which I've not had a response to btw) there's no way in hell she was being serious.
Do I do that a lot? Does it happen to every new user? Pah1986 is a new user, was I not perfectly civil to him in this thread?
I've read too much bullshit on the Sex and Relationships forums over the years that have pissed me off immensely, this time I decided to take the piss and shake things up a wee bit. If it was a regular occurence then I could see your point but I don't appreciate you throwing my name out there like I follow certain users about and do nothing but give them abuse.
I can't believe you'd say such things Jim :crying: :crying: :crying:
(PS: I never said anything bad today in Sex
Some people are daft, naeve and immature. That doesn't mean that they're not necessarily being serious.
Some people are intelligent, articulate, generous, and have any number of other great qualities, but make mistakes. I know I have, I still think back on stuff I've posted here with a bit of shame and embarrassment.
Actually, I'm never sure, my spelling is officially rubbish.
some people honestly take this place too seriously!
as for the new people ... while not particularly fond of em people here have a tendacy to rip them to shreds over nothin
Too rights, it's the internet. If someone's gonna take a huff and make a scene because someone else called them a cunt then they shouldn't be here in the first place. Then again, unjustified bullying/flaming is not acceptable at the same time.
:shocking: someone answer my question!!
God yeah. Those were the days.