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ok... so i went out down derby last night with my best mate who i have known for years. having a good nite, saw 3 lads that we know, my mate was snogging one of them as they have a past.
Anyway we are in a club and i see my ex's mates. i was with my ex for 2.5 yrs and we split up in august. My ex wasn't out.
So this one of his mates - Chris has just split up with his girlfriend of 3 yrs a couple of weeks ago and we were talking for like an hour til the club closed. My mate ended up going to a hotel with this guy, my ex's mate had no where to stay as he lost the rest of his mates so he came back to my house (i live with my mum and brother) and yeah everything was cool, we got in my bed and were chatting. so yeah we ended up sleeping together.
I've never had a one night stand before, i'd only slept with my ex who i am still friends with and see every so often. i've also had a 2 month relationship with someone - Lee, i didnt sleep with him in 2 months.
So yeah, not only have i had a one night stand, it was my ex's best mate and i duno, i cant believe how stupid i've been. Will my ex find out? if so i doubt he will ever speak to me again.
I feel so shit, i made the mistake of telling Lee and he now understandably hates my guts.
Is there anyway or advice that will make this situation any better?
Anyway we are in a club and i see my ex's mates. i was with my ex for 2.5 yrs and we split up in august. My ex wasn't out.
So this one of his mates - Chris has just split up with his girlfriend of 3 yrs a couple of weeks ago and we were talking for like an hour til the club closed. My mate ended up going to a hotel with this guy, my ex's mate had no where to stay as he lost the rest of his mates so he came back to my house (i live with my mum and brother) and yeah everything was cool, we got in my bed and were chatting. so yeah we ended up sleeping together.
I've never had a one night stand before, i'd only slept with my ex who i am still friends with and see every so often. i've also had a 2 month relationship with someone - Lee, i didnt sleep with him in 2 months.
So yeah, not only have i had a one night stand, it was my ex's best mate and i duno, i cant believe how stupid i've been. Will my ex find out? if so i doubt he will ever speak to me again.
I feel so shit, i made the mistake of telling Lee and he now understandably hates my guts.
Is there anyway or advice that will make this situation any better?
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His mate should have known better but if drink was involved suppose you both didnt do it to be spiteful. OR were you trying to do it for a reaction from your ex..?
Are you still with Lee? If so hes obv gonna be a bit annoyed lol since not only will you not sleep with him, you slept with someone else! Kinda a kick in the bollox reallY, altho there must have been a reason for you not to sleep with him.
Sounds kind of complicated and not sure itotally get it.
People do things they regret, but you should try and look at it as not a bad thing. Maybe feelings will become more clear, and you obviously liked the one you slept with or you wouldnt have done it??
Sorry i'm trying to help but get the feeling im actually not at all... sorry x
There was no intention to hurt anyone, its just one of those things that happened. i dont really like the guy and have no intention of doing it again with him. i didnt do it to get back at my ex or anything, he's like one of his best mates though.
i split up with Lee just over a week ago. He hasnt spoke to me today, i really dont blame him because i know i have hurt him.
i know the shit is gonna hit the fan with adam but its not happened yet. i dont know whether to tell him or not? do you think i should? i just dont wanna cause anymore damage than i already have done.
If you'd split up before sleeping with someone else, than Lee can go to hell too.
What I suspect is that you feel a bit guilty for having a ONS, and want to rationalise that guilt. Don't be guilty for having a bit of fun, and don't feel guilty for sleeping with a mate of an ex from three years ago.
No, don't tell your ex, its none of his damn business.
i really regret it. i learnt my lesson though!
i do feel guilty for hurting lee and if adam ever finds out too. not a lot a can do but try forget it happened!
i did actually have a chuckle with my mate about it earlier.....i cant believe i did it to be honest
Why do you regret it?
If you were split up with Lee, then you have no responsibility for him.
You have no responsibility for an ex from three years ago.
I find it bizarre that you regret it because of what an ex would think.
Don't tell your exes, its none of their business, and I don't understand why you think it is.
i just feel like it shouldnt of happened. i still care about my ex's feelings. knowing ive probably hurt them both is shit
i think only time will sort this one out