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Labour!?
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Ok ok had a really shitty dream last night about giving birth. Its not long away now and Im pooing my pants. Just how bad is labour?Did u have drugs during labour or go for the natural birth?Come on u girlies with babies and kiddos(j9j9, gwaimui) help me out here, im really shitting it now <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
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mother dies usually though
Thanx a lot j9j9, that made me feel better <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">. I do have a birthing partner, I think itll b my sister or my best friend Kay, she is older than me and wiser so should be good to have around. Thanx for the offer anyway!
Think Im just paniking lately, its not too long now and Im starting to freak out a bit. Also the housing people say Ill be waiting about a year and a half for a place, thats a long time to be stuck in a hostel. Little things like this r just getting to me, and Im worrying Ill be shit as a mum!
It sounds stupid I know but apparently its normal to start worrying from now on?
Cheers anyway j9j9 <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Funny that u wanted to write girl, everyone says thats what im having but I dont have a clue. My mum had a dream the other nite that I gave birth to a baby girl, exactly 51b (a bit small but hey).
As for labour... I had an elective ceasarean section because my baby was in the breech position (feet first). They advised me to have a c-section because I am small framed and my baby was massive on the scan and she was breech.
They booked me in for my 38th week and they told me this on my 37th week.
However, my little mite decided to be mishevious and she tried to come out on the night before the morning I was due to go to hospital for the op!
Hehe! I was sitting on the edge of the bed and just about to rest for the night. The hubby was checking my suitcase and I had a sudden urge to take a pee.
I got up and all this water started gushing out by the bucket full. I was really shocked. I had been having horrible period like pains in my tummy on and off all day but did not even realise it was labour pains. I thought I was just excited because of the thought of going in hospital the next day to have my baby.
I sat on the loo while the hubby rushed around to get my clothes to put on, etc. He reckons it sounded like 50 blokes peeing at the samne time as i sat on the loo with me waters breaking <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
I thought it would never end. LOL. You expect it to end soon, like peeing, but it goes on forever. It was still gushing out when i got to the hospital. I was really embarassed but obviously they r used to it.
When I got to the maternity ward the doc looked at my cervix and it was 3cm dilated. This meant they had to give me the ceasarean then rather than wait until the next day when i was supposed to have it.
I was in agony by this stage with labour pains becoming closer together and more intense. Believe it or not I felt lucky to have had the experience of my waters breaking and the labour pains because otherwise I would never have known what it was like.
The ceasarean was not an easy one. The doctors reckoned it was difficult because she didn't want to come out so they had to make a wider incision because she was fairly big (8 pounds, 11 ounces). It was a difficult time and recovering from a c-section is not a wonderful experience. They kept me in the recovery room all night whereas normally they send u straight to the wards. This was because my wound opened up and I suffered too much blood loss.
I had an epidural (spinal block) and was awake while they operated which was very strange. It feels like someone rumaging around in your stomach like its a shopping bag or something! LOL!
U feel the pain of it all after the epidural wears off.
However, if I had the chance to opt for one again I would because I know what to expect. Also, like J9 says, its nice to be able to keep your punani in tact! lol
Labour pains are like intense period pains. I cannot tell u what vaginal delivery feels like but I think any delivery is not easy. When u see your bundle of joy though, all the hurt will seem insignificant.
Don't worry. I am a wuss when it comes to pain but I was very strong when I reflect on myself. I will go through it again too when I decide I am ready for another child.
Just make sure u have a good birth partner and you'll be just fine.
Hope I haven't done your head in with my experiences of it. remember everyone is different.
I used to be scared but having experienced it, I know I won't be scared next time.
just be strong. you are a woman, you can handle it. nature designed our bodies to cope with child birth <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Take care babes <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
PS. When is your due date? We should have a wager as to when we think lolly junior will arrive!
Thankfully because mine was elective they let me stay awake and let Q stay in too. I think the op generally takes around an hour but the majority of that is sewing the wound back up.
They sent Q out of the room after Farah was delivered and after all 3 of us had bonded. They sent him out, I think while they stitched me up.
While he was in the corridor he heard me screaming because when they shot the drug into my shoulder that makes your womb contract it felt like someone was stabbing me with a knife.
I started shaking because of the drugs and massive loss of blood.
Q was in the corridor while I was screaming and shouting 'what's happening to me!' and the poor love didn't have any idea what was going on. He said he was really worried.
Don must have been distraught. How awful that they just shoved him outside. Did they let him hold the baby when u were still under the anaesthetic? You both must've felt robbed of those special first moments.
They say its harder to start up breastfeeding after a general anaethetic too.
Even though mine had been a difficult elective c-section under epidural, I felt happy afterwards that I had been able to have the contractions, waters breaking, holding the babe straight away with q, etc.
It must have been real hard for u guys.
How did u bond with the babe after u had a c-section under general anaesthetic? I bet it seemed like someone just plonked this baby on u and u didn't even know what was going on because of the confusion u suffer when u come to.
I am thinking that post natal depression must seem a lot worse too because after an anaesthetic u tend to become depressed for a few days.
What was it like for u, j9?
lol. sorry if i'm being nosey <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Lolly, don't forget to add your birth story here when u have given birth.
Ha ha ha keeping my punani intact. Funny u should say that coz I think Id much rather have stiches in my belly than my puntang tee hee <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">. I think I might opt for an elective cesarean, although reckon Ill have one anyway. My mum had two due 2 her small pelvis and thinks ill b the same.
Im not sure, all this giving birth thing just seems so unreal right now. I think Im still hoping it might all turn out to be a dream and Ill wake up at one point!!!
Gees thats a story and a half! Not as bad as some of the others ive heard though. Especially my mums, they r proper horrer stories, but I wont go into them.
Oh god...Im really not wanting to do this whole baby thing...Y am I suddenly shitting myself so much!?
My consultant is ok, have only seen him once as he went on holiday. All anyone seems interested in is referring my to bloody psychologists and psychiatrists before I have ther baby! Its doin my bloody head in!
No everyone is bein cool, am seeing the midwife wednesday or thursday (cant remeber) and will talk to her then about labour etc. Think I gotta write a birth plan too?
have u decided on any names yet?
as 4 labour, every1 in the world has had to be born so try not 2 worry 2 much hun.
hope things r goin ok anyway.
love ya helen
Aww yea I agree with all that, apart from living 20 minutes away of course, Bolton is a bit further than that! I love the names you picked, they're gorgeous. The kind of names I'd pick if I was having kids! I'm sure everything wil go ok.
Ta very much <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
I live v near Watford too. We'll all cum c u and say hi.
how ya doin?
i actually live near tring, but, i consider watford as being down the road, as my best buddie lives there and most of my family.
i was there 2day actually! xmas shoppin, but i only got 2 prezzies, but i managed to drop 1 of em out of my car! so its now in little pieces! oops never mind.
where u live then?
love ya helly
j9, do u know the pub over the road from the train station in croxley? sort of next door 2 the station realy, but over a road! soz if ive confused u!
is there ne1 else who can join us!
love u all lots love helen
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If you mean the one by Croxley Met, it's the Red House. It always used to be a real dive when I lived in CG, but apparently it's got carpet instead of sawdust on the floor now lol.
& if you mean the one by the, now defunct, Croxley Green BR station, that's the Two Bridges.
I like the one n New Road - the Fox, or the Coach on the green
j9
Yea cool, Im up for anything!!My mum might be persuaded to take the little one for the day but if not I know my mate will, she has decided to take the place of daddy (tee hee) and will be well up for it Im sure.
Im sure we can arrange for u to c the baby at sometime too <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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pay attention Spirit <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> I said that on the 11th lol
j9