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Yeah unfortunately as Fiend rightly said I've already given that ultimatum so I've marooned myself up shit creek without a paddle. I guess I was a bit too soft in the aftermath in that I went back before Simon was completely out of the door, and I suppose that was seen as some kind of acceptance of the situation. Anyway, I went round this morning to get some bits and bobs and leave the ring since there's obviously no point in even pretending that that's ever going to work out. Next problem being that we're supposedly off to Sweden for a couple of days tomorrow. Hmph.
Fiend I'm staying at a mate's at the minute, came round here last night after it all kicked off again and have set up camp. I don't really want to upset my parents at the minute -- they've got their own problems!
Sounds like you need a big hug, not that that will help but you know what I mean.
Really sorry to hear that you've had to move out again
Is it just the two of you going to Sweden?
Hes a complete nob. He really shouldnt be doing this to you.
Im so cross on your behalf.
If the worst comes to worst you'll simple immigrate to austria and start a new life... or something.
good luck, hope this works out ok.
I'm cross, too, I wish I could be a bit more cross though as I keep sliding back into "understanding" mode and that hasn't really gotten me anywhere in the past! Obviously you know the ins and outs of the situation, I'm not really sure why he's doing this -- especially why NOW, but obviously I just don't know him as well as I'd thought.
Helen - it is just the two of us going tomorrow. Wednesday will be 15 years since his mum died so we had decided to go and visit her grave and see that side of his family since he rarely gets a chance to visit these days. I am absolutely dreading it now but we have talked about it and he wants me to go with him, and obviously no matter what has happened I'm not going to let him down at a time like this. But really - argh.
Strubbs, Austria is looking more and more attractive by the day! I'm not sure if it's a case of him not knowing that this is make or break time, rather he thinks there's no way I would actually leave him and not end up going back. Obviously that's going on track records, but really he has no idea, I can be pretty stubborn when I want/need to be
I even went to the magistrate today and got everything ready. Your passport says you are now known as Elfriede Sedlacék. So if you ever need to go into hiding and are bored of your name, pm me :razz:
Cheers for that lipsy! Obviously I hope you're spot on
The drugs are a weird issue, Stephen [my boyfriend] has a pretty grim past in terms of drug use but at the end of the day he can [and will] do whatever the fuck he likes so I would tend to keep it buttoned. Time was I'd have been doing it all too... and then some, and I'm no hypocrite! He's still into coke in a pretty big way and that's about it, however his cousin is a different issue entirely and has every kind of drug habit going and no way of paying for it. Basically that's the part I really, really don't understand... I would struggle to kick out a relative too but as soon as they started stealing everything that wasn't nailed down I'm sure I'd find the ability.
As for things being sweet between us, well I was going to say that they really, really were until recently but then I suppose this has always been an underlying issue as the cousin has been there for the entire duration. I kind of found it bearable and possibly even vaguely bemusing/amusing, up until the time I found out I was pregnant and then I couldn't abide having him anywhere near me as he turned into a nasty little shit with his "period rain dances" and hilarious jokes about kicking pregnant women down the stairs. A very strange little man, indeed.
Annnyway... obviously, retrospectively it's been a lot for us both to deal with in a short space of time but that's life, and we've spent so long as friends that it isn't as if we barely know each other (though it has felt that way on occasions in the more recent past). However, since I've managed to keep my shit together (for the most part) throughout maybe it's a blessing to find out that he really, really can't and seems to need his deadbeat cousin as some kind of crutch. Just at the moment I think he's struggling too with memories of his mum, and if the problems had've been a result of that I wouldn't have given it a second thought and would be able to continue to - at least try to - understand.. I'm not quite sure how he can explain away the other weeks of behaving like a spineless child.
Maybe Sweden will be a healthy break, though obviously it's not being taken with romantic intentions. If we were going there for any other reason there is no way I'd still be going, but I can't just bow out because the going's got a little rough eh.
eta: Cheers Rach and Nikki, you pair of sweethearts
I think I could live with that name! I will bear it in mind :thumb:
Take care , and think of yourself first for a change...
If stuff has gone missing and he is trashing your flat - you have no alternative.
Even better than that, we got back on Friday morning and there was no sign that there was ever even a third person living in the flat. To say I am over the moon would be a massive understatement
Let's hope so
His Wii is still here too for some strange reason so I have been releasing my pent-up rage boxing thin air :razz:
so are you and thingy still together?
Cheers! I'm pretty chuffed meself