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I've noticed guys staring before, especially in summer, but nothing extreme, I guess I just don't look like someone you'd mess with. Not, just to make this clear, that I'm implying that any of the lovely ladies here act or look like victims. Just that I am possibly the anti-victim.
I hate it when men leer at you on the street too. Theres loads of building work going on around us at the moment and I can't leave work without being wolf-whistled from the scaffolding and it's just nasty. Men have no right to do it and it's so disrespectful
I think sexually perverted weirdos all live on busses - when I was growing up there was a bloke who was known as the Shoe Bloke and he harrased nearlly all of my friends - thankfully he was pretty harmless. But the first time I met him I got on the bus and sat by the driver - this was about 6pm on a friday evening - he moved from the back seat to sit next to me and said - "can I look at your legs" and then proceeded to stare at them from about 2 foot away for the rest of the journey.
However someone must have told him at some point that asking to look at peoples legs was inappropriate so he then started asking to look at peopels shoes - but his favourite were knee high boots....
Anyway I used to get harrased quite a lot I don't think I do as much now but i also think thats partly becuase I am grown up and don't go to potentially harrasing places as much - like I hardly ever take busses now etc etc. About a year ago I did get some men thrown out of a club for trying to drag me off down a dark corridor and molest me - thankfully I was saved by a friend - who pretened to be my boyfriend to make them leave me alone and then got the bouncer to chuck them out.
On the other hand though some of my friends thought it was "hillarious" to go around beeping at men when they first got their cars and shouting out the window at them...
This is true I think some people get hassled more than others and it has to be something to do with the way they conduct themselves (not really to do with dress or looks) - when I lived in Kings Cross I never got hassled ever I dont' think i'm that ugly and i used to run around in skirts that hardly covered my bum all the time late at night. But another girl in my halls got curb crawled all the time even though she ususally wore jeans or long skirts. The only think i can think of was that i was generally more confident and less vulnerable looking.
However I'm also not that bothered when people call out darling or wolf whistle at me in passing so maybe I didnt' get so upset about it as she did. I've never really understood people who get upset about being called darling by random people like shop keepers - though my favourite is princess.
Agree completely. I think the whole thing is REALLY shocking.
Me either.
But there is probably some hard core feminist ideal behind it.
As for being flashed, I don't think that I have. I did get some mad dude come up to me in the street, when I was about 17, and just try and snog me though. Very strange.
Yes, it's called "man hating".
That's terrible!