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SHould I move out?
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I am 22 and live at home.
I lived at home through uni, going to the uni in my city, though to be fair it was a good uni and a good city.
I live with my family and now have a job so have been looking to move out.
I found a room i na house with 4 girls. Its a double room with an ensuite though in the basement of the house. They girls like me and wnat me to move in, they have told me. The rent for the area is pretty good.
However, this will be more cost then I have had before. There is a £300 bond and the rent is £214.50 or so a month. So first month is £500 straight out, plus food and bills. Tho they say bills are cheap.
However, when I asked about council tax they say they havent paid any yet, and since 3 of them are professionals and I am to I think they should be paying it and I dont want to be hit with a fine if I do move in.
At home I ponly pay £125 a month and get food made and washing done for me.
at the other place is the costs plus making ur own food and doing ur own washing but they dont have a dryer.
I could handle this.
however my folks dont want me to move, they have move dmy room round with one of theres so I now have a larger room and a double bed, they tell me I wont be able to save any money if I move and my mum says she will sell up and downgrade to a 2 bed room in the country if I do move.
its all quite stressful.
what do I do?
I lived at home through uni, going to the uni in my city, though to be fair it was a good uni and a good city.
I live with my family and now have a job so have been looking to move out.
I found a room i na house with 4 girls. Its a double room with an ensuite though in the basement of the house. They girls like me and wnat me to move in, they have told me. The rent for the area is pretty good.
However, this will be more cost then I have had before. There is a £300 bond and the rent is £214.50 or so a month. So first month is £500 straight out, plus food and bills. Tho they say bills are cheap.
However, when I asked about council tax they say they havent paid any yet, and since 3 of them are professionals and I am to I think they should be paying it and I dont want to be hit with a fine if I do move in.
At home I ponly pay £125 a month and get food made and washing done for me.
at the other place is the costs plus making ur own food and doing ur own washing but they dont have a dryer.
I could handle this.
however my folks dont want me to move, they have move dmy room round with one of theres so I now have a larger room and a double bed, they tell me I wont be able to save any money if I move and my mum says she will sell up and downgrade to a 2 bed room in the country if I do move.
its all quite stressful.
what do I do?
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Move, if you want to. Stay, if you want to. Do what you want to do - you're the only one who knows if moving out is what you really want to do.
Number two is to decide if you want to move out or not. It sounds to me like you'd like to have some more independence and the main thing stopping you is your folks not wanting you to leave home. They've had you at home for so long that it's kind of understandable, but at the same time they have to realise you're 22 and not going to live at home for the rest of your life! They need to let go and let you make your own decisions about where you want to live. I'm sure it's a very stressful situation to be in, but you have to make a stand if this is what you want. It's your life, not theirs.
Is there any truth in what they say about you not being able to save any money if you move out? Once you've added up all the things I mentioned above, plus food and the daily expenses you're paying at the moment (travel, toiletries, clothes, going out, etc), how much of your income are you going to have left? It will be a lot less than you have at the moment, but is independence worth that? Like Click says, you're the only one who knows. But to me it sounds like this is a good opportunity for you to fly the nest for the first time - you'll have to do it sometime, and as these girls are people you know and like, that's better than moving in with strangers. If your parents are the only things holding you back then I'd say go for it, they may well be upset at first but will come to accept your decision soon enough.
You're a dude, right?
If so, why the fuck are you asking us?
You ever lived with 4 women, 'dude?!'?!?!?! :crazyeyes
I have - and as much as I loved them - it was a nightmare!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :shocking: :banghead: :mad:
Take the chance, or you'll start to regret it when all you're other mates have places of their own.
tho 2 of my mates aren't moving out. One wont unless its woith a gf and the other I dunno. But other mates have, one lives in a bit of a tip but likes it I think and the other just moved out with his gf so he is sorted.
well my wage, after decuctions, is £957 a month. The rent is £214-£215 a month. They say £10-£20 or bills and £4 for net/tv. You buy your own food but share bread and milk. I dunno about council tax yet. If I get bus to work and back it would be £13 a week so times that by 4. So all that plus £10 for phone cred and I hguess some random spends and the odd water bill.
folks are ok, we argue and they annoy me but we are ok. Its kind of half and half.
I dont know these girls personally. I met them twice. Saw them this weke and they want me to move in, they said they want me so. But it is strangers and I am worried about what would happen if I fall out with them.
You seem to earn about the same as me and my rent is almost double yours so you could easily move in and still save £100 a month in my view!
well £13 a week gives u unlimtied bus travel so its cheaper then aday rider in the morning to 2 singles.
my folks just called me stupid, an idiot, threatend to un0plugg my slaptop, said they were sick of my atttitude and when I said I think they made my mind up, they replied "good".
well my nan does. She does washing and ironing and cooking, mum does some of that a swell.
I would do more but if I do I get crticsied for it or nan takes it over so I dont do owt now.
hto if they go away I can cook my own food, sort myself out and that
but I havent used the washing machine b4 or ironed so thats an issue.
can u really dry clothes on rack in front of radiators?
I dry my clothes on the radiators but it's better to get a rack thing.
And most clothes don't need to be ironed if you hang them out to dry nicely rather than scrumpled up. The main thing you can't get away without ironing is shirts, which can be a bit tricky (and time consuming) to iron, but a bit of practice will make perfect
Your parents sound like mine, like bullies. The best thing i ever did was move out.
You will learn how to look after yourself as you go along, by trial and error. Looking after yourself is easy and with a little common sense you'll soon be independant.
Moving in with strangers is also a great way to widen your social circle. Yes you might fall out with them, but this is just as likely with existing friends, because as someone else said you dont know someone properly until you have lived with them. You've met them and they are nice so thats a good start. If you establish ground rules right away before your settled in, it makes things alot easier and is more likely to avoid people from getting into bad habits.
I personally found it easier to move in with strangers than to live with my friends. Living with my friends did my head in, even though i love them.
And if you dont like it, you can find someone else to fill your room.
costs scare me so much tho.
I'll have a word with the letting agents 2moro and if they seem ok then I think I will go for it.
I still aint 100% but what the hell eh?
hopefully it will be the right move.
washing and drying clothes is such a non event. its so easy, only takes 15 mintues a week.
cooking isnt really a problem either. you will soon get used to making meals daily.
youre gonna have to move out one day. its better to be now.
sounds to me your mother doesnt want you to move because she likes having you around. just try to see/phone regulary and she should be ok. she shouldnt expect you to stay there forever.
and pay the council tax. between four people it will be relatively low.
I guess I should do it. Juts filled with doubt and indeciviness, its not good. I'll see.
will see 2moro lol.
it is of course your choice, but from my personal experience of letting agents i would steer clear of them and go for a private landlord.
Letting agents are all complete money grabbing bastards. They took over £100 of my money for "administration fee's" which involved swapping my name for someone elses on a contract for a room. Bullshit! It took less than 5 minutes to do.
How about saving something from your paycheck each month in a special "council tax" account (I have no idea about how much council tax is, but someone on here should be able to give you a very approximate figure, which you can divide by however many people are living in the house, and add it to the account each month). Then if it does end up getting backdated, you've got the money (or a large chunk of it at least) to hand. And if not, you've got a nice sum to either continue saving or spend on something special! Win-win situation really.
well I have no choice abou tthe letting agents, thats who they deal with and yes I 'd have to pay £50 in an "administration fee" to swap names on a contract.
things is though I rung them after boxing day, yeatserday and today and no1 is there.