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speak to him, tell him clearly how much this means to you and that you plan to do it, with or without him. if he really loves you, he will be willing to work together with you to come up with a compromise. if not, then at least you found out now before you give up your dreams for him
Well said:)
That doesnt mean you should give up your ambitions though.
As a side-issue, I think it's cod pyschology to say that people who want to stay where they've grown up and have a network of friends and family are somehow lacking in ambition, are boring and not going to go anywhere in life. That is just subscribing to the old cliche about bright lights, big city equalling success. It may be true for people who want to see their name in lights but for teachers, plumbers, shop assistants, nurses etc they have as much chance of finding a job in many smaller towns as they do in the biggest city. I also find the vein of snobbishness running through this thread regarding small towns = small minds to be pretty backward. I'm sorry, it's total bollocks. Also what's this about relationships coming and going, but jobs lasting forever. Granted, some people's relationships might be like that (and indeed it sounds as if the OP's isn't exactly ideal) but I personally have more relationship security than job security. You can't generalise that job is always going to come before signifigant other, though I would say that if you do have to question it even for a second then that's your answer right there.
It doesn't necessarily STOP them but it can hold them back.
It's one of the reasons I don't really want to settle down too soon, because I don't want to be stuck here, I want to make the most of all possible opportunities.
People who are single are more open to all options such as working overseas, moving to another city to follow their dreams etc. I'm not saying people in relationships are not, just less likely.
In my experience anyway I've done a lot more when I've been single.
I agree with you however I feel not having money, struggling to make ends meet, with university debts to pay off would not help. I know that some of my friends who although in a happy relationship with kids and everything they ever wanted are still unhappy as they are in a dead end job that they do to get through life and to pay bills.
I worked in Somerfields for 3 years and detested it. ABSOLUTELY hated it because it was not stretching me far enough! Others however love a 9-5 job they can leave at the end of the day with little responsibility. I love being a teacher, it is what I have worked for and hence being a teacher (making me happy) will allow us to be happier. There is no way I would be selfish and bring a child into the world until we both are economically and emotionally safe and we both will be when we have the jobs we want.
My boyfriend is a tradesman and said he'd be prepared to move anywhere I'm required to live for a job. However I'm not sure if we'll still be together when I finish uni.
What exactly is holding him down in Cornwall? Are you sure it's not just lifestyle, family and friends rather than his job?
A message from your maid of honour! You and your hubby are totally meant to be together and it's not nice that people on here were calling him a twat! You would make a brilliant teacher and I think you should start supply teaching again in September. It is hard to get work here and your hubby could probably get a plumbing job anywhere, but at least for now he has a decent job and you are starting afresh. You worked hard at uni and worked hard doing supply teaching, perservere and I know it will all work out
Bit off topic, but that'll be me then :thumb: I've got all i need where i am and don't feel the urge to give any of it up and move somewhere else. Sometimes some of us are happy with the lot that we've got already
Yup - I still can't understand it. Just a differing of outlooks