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Would you Date someone who has Cheated in the past?
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would you date someone who has cheated in the past?
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It would certainly set alarm bells ringing.
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However i would be aware of his past and most likely not fall too hard too fast incase there is the risk of getting hurt.
You've got to give people a chance though, especially when you could be missing out on something potentially good.
Also there are more than one reason why people cheat. It may not be acceptable, but it can still be understandable possibly in some circumstances.
Is that a subtle way to confess to have cheated?
Yes, i would! Yes, i did!
as long as it had been a one off
I've done it before, thinking they've done it before but it'll be different with me, but it never has, they've all gone and cheated on me too. But what did I expect?
In my opinion once a cheater always a cheater.
Anyone with any morals would end a bad relationship rather then cheat in it.
I disagree with you there. I cheated on my ex but i would NEVER EVER do that to Chris.
Depends what your reason was though.
I don't know i have a reason, he was a shit, i was in a dead end relationship which i didn't have the strength to end at the time(6 years is a long time to just walk away from). I guess it was the cheating that gave me the strength.
It's not an excuse and to this day he doesn't know i did, i am not proud of what i did.
But i know in my heart of hearts i would never do it to Chris.
Definitely.
Depends of why they cheated. If she's done it once, why wouldn't she do it again?
Also, the "It didn't mean anything" thing doesn't wash with me, however true it might have been.
I thought that once apon a time, my friend kept saying it to me and i ignored it and took the guy back, he then cheated on me again.
Obviously not all men are like that but still.
I'm not saying you're a bad person in anyway, but I think there's never an excuse for cheating. If someone has a problem with a relationship then they should confront it. Being in a bad relationship and being treated badly by your other half is no excuse to cheat, in my opinion, it is exactly the same as just cheating. Everyone cheats for a reason, people who are compleatly content and happy don't cheat, but that doesn't make it any less terrible.
IF I knew a girl had cheated because her last boyfriend trated her badly and she was unhappy I would be thinking well what if we have an argument and she's unhappy, or what if she's not happy and won't tell me so I don't know and can't do anything about it and instead she might just go off and cheat on me. It's just not worth the worry in my opinion.
I said it's not an excuse and that i am not proud of what i did.
If a girl cheated on her boyfriend, it would probably be alot more than them having an argument.
As for me - it would depend what the reason for cheating was.
It wasn't an arguement in my case, he just treated me like shit (try walking out and leaving your gf when shes having her first panic attack, can't breath and you are more worried about the fact you have some dodgy cd's laying around that paramedics might see:rolleyes: :mad: ) thats just an example, so no what i did wasn't right but i sure as hell didn't treat him half as shit as he did me.
Shortly after i ended it.
Like i said it's not an excuse but i had my reasons/
I know, I was quoting you because you were the one who said you had cheated before but wouldn't do it again becuase it was exceptional circumstances etc.
My point was that I don't think there are any circumstances that should lead anyone to cheat. I just don't buy into the fact that some people say they are not the type of person to cheat but did it because they were forced into it.
Yes, obviously I simplified that for the sake of this discussion. But my point still stands.
Noone is forced to cheat.
Don't know if the judgement bit was aimed at me or not, but I'm not judging anyone who has cheated. I just wouldn't go out with anyone who had, no matter what the circumstances.
I've been in terrible realtionships with controlling and down right nasty girls which involved physical violence. In some of the relationships i've been in the situation where I could have cheated but I just didn't see that as a suitable way out of the situation I was in.