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Why arnt girls more forward?
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Just to quanlify i dont mean slutty or fucking with guys minds i mean if you like a guy make it obvious almost any guy i know wouldnt care and most would think its awesome we live in a world of "womens rights" yet you still wont make the first move im sorry i know its a bit of a rant but after reading a few relevant posts its starting to annoy me why should we do all the work?
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Well, USUALLY boys make the step, so why not just lean back and let them come forward to you. I would do so too, if I know a girl is making steps to be with me, but society sees man as the step-taker, so girls tend to not show vulnerable aspects while you might make yourself ridiculous.
What I really dislike is, when girls see a man make a step to them, dig them, but are to pussy to reciprotate and finally tell this man (let's say it's me), "I really dug you back in 2003... a pity it did not work out." YOU HO! I tried everything, but you were acting as if you weren't interested!!!
Best case scenario is, both parties making signs and working "together" in that department, and what I sure as hell know too: As soon as a girl shows real interest in me, and drops signs to be with me, I go for it (if im single ofc), because that never happened before and I really appreciate this kind of genuity.
/edit: Can't say I like the way it is, but sometimes I really enjoy the courting. It's like working in your carpentry and craft a cool wooden bench or something. To work on something and see the reward.
Of course the media should objectify women, or course women should know their place and not be allowed rights to their body. If she gets knocked up by pleasuring him when he wants it then it's her own fault.
And don't get me started on careers, women are worse than them blacks... Jeeze!
Yeah, all the women's rights in this country, you'd think women would throw themselves at your perfect ass.
It's amazing how its only ever men who can't get laid who complain about the behaviour of women.
All women are different, just like all men are different. Deal with it. Some are forward and go for what they want. Some aren't. Clearly you attract the ones that aren't .... or should I say that you are attracted to ones that aren't. Maybe you secretly enjoy the melodrama of not knowing.
personally i dnt think id ask a lad out unless i knew for a fact that he liked me back
That's what I am afraid too
but I have to jump over my shadow...
that's probably the reason too, why we men are generally more assertive...
not to hop on the generalisation-bandwagon tho.
:yes: :thumb:
I asked my other half out. I'm not that much of a rarity either.
Just speaking from personal experience, I've made the first move with every bloke I have ever been out with. I really can't be arsed waiting around for them to grow a pair, though I think my instincts about whether they're interested or not are pretty much honed to perfection - which makes it a lot easier and less scary :thumb:
Some people may remember but there's a girl in my class at college who I really, really, really, REALLY like and I'm pretty sure she likes me too from the time we have spent with eachother, problem is she's usually with her friends and I'm new to this college so am a bit shy and haven't really got the guts to go up to her and ask her out, but why can't she fucking do it?
I did meet an incredibly forward girl at a party once, she was drunk as fuck though but was literally all over me. I didn't come on to her at all because she was going out with one of my best mates, mates but she was taking my clothes off and locking us in the garage and stuff lol, never met a girl that forward in my life.
I know mate, and I'm too much of a coward to do the first so that's why I'm praying she's gonna be at this college party I'm going to next week....
Oh the wonders of alcohol
And kermits probably right.
What really gets my goat up is when guys just grab your arse when you are walking through a pub/club!! Hello! or if you are walking down the street and blokes are like Yo! or do that hissing thing!! what the fuck!!?? where are all the gentleman thats what i wanna know. Saying that i do live in North London.... perhaps i should move! lol
but if he can tell they like him and they wont move then either go to them or move on, no point winging about it. There's loads of forward girls, he just needs to find them.
Well done for stating the obvious...
If you like her that much, what's wrong with YOU making the move? I always make the first move if I like someone...
bwahaha... when I saw sofie posted in here I knew something party pooping would come.
Look at examples from nature - plenty of animal species operate in the same way. By making the move (with confidence) you show you ain't a beta-male who's terrified of women; by not making a move, you're suggesting either disinterest or a beta-male mindset - neither of which will get you anywhere with the majority of the female population.
if im in a club/pub or whatever and theres someone there i like, i always try and make myself go over to them but i never can!! im just waay too shy with guys - plus i always get the feeling that if i DO go over then theyre gonna be thinking 'why the hell is SHE coming over here'?! i just dont think im good enough for most guys. it sucks
hoowever - i went to london the other week and there was a guy on my coach that i reeally liked but had never spoke to. dont know if it was because of the different surroundings, or just if i was more comfortable with this guy than most, but i was actually able to go up to him in the bar that night and said hey first :yippe: first for everything! now we've been going out for 2 weeks
You must know a lot of jerks then.