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Domestic abuse.
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Sorry if this isn't meant for this forum but, a few nights ago my aunt's husband beat her up in their kitchen, knocked her head against the stove several times, kicked her, strangled her, dragged her into a room, locked the room and took her car keys. They've been married for just over a year and their relationship has always been rocky. My aunt had to break the window with her hands and run out, at about 1 in the morning. She had to run for a further 5 hours as they live on a farm in Wiltshire in the middle of nowhere and her closest friend lived 3 hours away. Noone else was at the house at the time but my aunt did go to the doctors the next day, had a some stitches and told she had trauma to her jaw. What sort of a punishment will her husband get, if at all, if she does report the case to the police?
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The punishment he receives will depend on many factors, least of all what her testimony is and whether she actually dares go to court against him. Assuming she presses charges, and assuming that she testifies against him that he did all this, I would expect the husband to receive a significant custodial sentence.
The BBC lists many contact numbers and websites here.
Convince her to talk to the police about it , with investigation he can be dealt with, if she doesnt want to say anything because shes worried, go with her OR tell them yourself, she will be kept safe and her husband will be investigated
I don't really advocate violence, but can i come ?
whether it's what she wants or not, if she decides against reporting it to the police, you really should, even against her will. I'm sure she would thank you for it later.
:yes: But this could be seen as interfering.
that's what I had assumed :yes:
Well, that's the way she sees it. In the space of 1 1/2 - 2 years she's spent hundreds of thousands of pounds on him and while most people might believe that they'd much rather the justice than the money, I guess she just doesn't see it that way. Its all very complicated, it was her 4th marriage, her relationship with her chlidren is rather shitty (when she had cancer they said 'whatever. everyone gets that'), its all long winded. I just wanted to know if there was a case in what her 'husband' did to her, to help convince her.
if her reasons for staying were fear, insecurity etc i could understand, but to put up with that kind of life for the sake of money is awful
dont get me wrong, there is no excuse for what he did, but how she can put money before her safety/life is beyond me
and of course there will be a case against him, he physically assaulted her, but whats the point if she is gonna stay? it`ll achieve nothing
Sorry I didn't quite put that right I think. My mum and I were talking about what happened a few days ago when I told her how much I wanted/wished my aunt would make a police report. We both don't know why she hasn't made one, and as we haven't really been able to talk her with her being in Spain and not bringing her mobile, the only reason we can think of as to why she may not want to make a report is because of the money she's spent.
The BBC link provided before had some great resources. TheSite also has some information about domestic violence. Refuge has some information for family and friends of abused women. And, you can also ring their hotline on 0808 2000 247 for more advice to support your aunt.
Best wishes.
You better do it quick while theres still evidence (her injuries).