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Behind, and don't know what to do
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Hey people,
I'm in my second year of uni, and things are going down hill.
A lot of shit has happened since i've been at uni, and i've hit rock bottom. I've been put on antidepressants and have been referred to a counsellor. However, my appointment for her wont come through for at least two months, and in the meantime i'm getting behind on my uni work.
It's my concentration that is the problem. I HAVEN'T GOT ANY. I've been back for 7 weeks, and have done just three pages of notes for the entire course so far. (I'm doing psychology). I should have done folders full by now, but just can't clear my mind to focus on it.
I don't attend hardly any lectures because i just can't motivate myself, and now i've received a departmental warning. If i don't get my act together im going to be kicked off the course. I really want to snap out of this, but i can't. I'm relying on the counselling to help, but in two months time it might be too late. I don't know what to do. I feel so bad.
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I'm in my second year of uni, and things are going down hill.
A lot of shit has happened since i've been at uni, and i've hit rock bottom. I've been put on antidepressants and have been referred to a counsellor. However, my appointment for her wont come through for at least two months, and in the meantime i'm getting behind on my uni work.
It's my concentration that is the problem. I HAVEN'T GOT ANY. I've been back for 7 weeks, and have done just three pages of notes for the entire course so far. (I'm doing psychology). I should have done folders full by now, but just can't clear my mind to focus on it.
I don't attend hardly any lectures because i just can't motivate myself, and now i've received a departmental warning. If i don't get my act together im going to be kicked off the course. I really want to snap out of this, but i can't. I'm relying on the counselling to help, but in two months time it might be too late. I don't know what to do. I feel so bad.
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Not only that, but i don't want to tell them that i'm depressed and things. I feel ashamed that i can't deal with things myself, and feel stupid telling people that i'm not coping. I've told nobody about how i'm feeling except my gp. I worry too much about being judged.
Unfortunately it is one of those situation where if you dont step up to it eventually things will be worse (ie: you'll get kicked out of uni). You might have to swallow some pride but you really need to let someone know.
I know the feeling, although at least my problems were physical so were easier to explain.
Does your uni have a counselling service? They may be able to help.
Email your tutor, no one will get at you for not asking for help sooner, they'll just be gladd you ask now.
I'll let yo guys know what happens.
Thanks again
If you meet with anyone, write an honest list of what you're behind with and what you've missed before you go. Then you can just hand it over.
I found that far easier than trying to explain myself.
(I know, I'm rubbish at facing up to limitations).
My tutor said he's glad i got in touch with him, and i've arranged to meet with him tommorrow. I think he's going to tell me to take a year out though, which is what i'm dreading, as uni is the only thing i have going for me at the minute.
I'll let you guys know how it went tommorrow
x x x
Good luck with your tutor, be realistic with them about how far behind you are, tell them you're not keen to take the year out, but don't rule it out completely.
I live in a student flat, and if i drop out i wont get my next loan installment, and therefore wont be able to pay my rent. I'll have to move out, and i have nowhere else to live.
Good luck. xxxx
Just thought i'd let you guys know that i went today at 11.30am and spoke to a lady who deals withs mitigating circumstances. I wanted to keep myself really composed, but ended up just bursting into a flood of tears. She was really nice, and told me that i could have an extension on my essays and things, and just need to bring a doctors note in to extend my exams if need be.
I was totally straight with her and told her that all my motivation has flown right out of the window, and that i'm not coping and she was really supportive. Hopefully i'll get my appointment with the counsellor through soon, and i can get my life on track.
Thanks guys. I wouldn't have sent the first email if it weren't for your encouragement.
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Do try and sort out at least some of your academic stuff now if you can, don't pin too much on that counselling session. Set yourself targets and get some of the stuff handed in. You'll be amazed how much of the weight is lifted off your shoulders when you get some of that work out of the way.
Keep in touch with the person you saw though, let them know how things are looking.
And don't worry about bursting into tears on them, apparently loads of people do!