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Your partner that is.
If you've been with someone for only a short time, maybe a month, and they say "I love you" - what do you do? Say it back? Leg it? Change the subject?
Personally if someone said that to me in a month of being with them I think I'd want to leg it from them. Although I've been told worse.
If you've been with someone for only a short time, maybe a month, and they say "I love you" - what do you do? Say it back? Leg it? Change the subject?
Personally if someone said that to me in a month of being with them I think I'd want to leg it from them. Although I've been told worse.
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Maybe 6months + yeah..
But not after a month. I have layers, I'm like Shrek. I'm an onion, man. You gonna get to my eye stinging core then decide whether you still wanna bum me. You'll cry but I'm the best onion you'll ever meet.
Someones gotta be the one to say it first though.
Yep, at least you were honest even if it is not that easy sometimes to not hear it back... But it's best to be honest and say it only if you feel it...
After two dates, and this guy is saying "I love you", I really don't know what to say to him, I can't say I love you back, because I don't, I've stopped seeing him, probably because of this. I think it's not something you should rush into saying, I don't feel like it's an honest thing to say, and not much thought has gone in to it, Sure you can feel as If you are falling in love with someone, I think it's a selfish thing to say before you really know for sure.
So, I think a couple of months, depending on how much time you spend with eachother, would be ok.
i can't see myself falling in love that quickly either so i'd find it a bit odd.
I thought so too! :nervous:
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I would [and have] undoubtedly shit a brick if anyone I'd been seeing for a month or thereabouts said "I love you". I wouldn't necessarily leg it from the relationship but it would probably unsettle me, regardless of how I was feeling about them at the time. That is just too much, too soon for me.
She told me that she wants my children and she wants to move in with me. In fact I think she wanted us to run away together.
This was in about 6-8 weeks os seeing each other. Anything we had started to die there and then.
I hope you dumped him straight after though.
Although I feel stupid saying it before a certain time. Saying that, with the current boy-type, it was stupidly fast (as in about a month, maybe a bit longer), but because I was friends with him for months before we got together, and he's one of my best friends as it is, we already knew each other pretty well and I think that's why it was so fast.
Or I'm just a bit weird ;o.
This is because I often get the feelings of lust and love mixed up. I think this is the case for alot of other people as well tbh. Sometimes when I go into a new relationship, I am overwhelmed with all these feelings and well, sometimes I think I feel something that actually isn't there.
Also, I'm never one to say it first either. Not quite sure why. I suppose its because I'm worried about scaring them off.
If someone tells me they love me, I usually say it back if I know for sure I feel the same way. However, if I don't know, I won't say it back.
Its not something I just say. I have to mean it. I don't love one boy one week then another the next (because I know a few people at uni who have like been in love with a boy, been dumped and act all devastated and shit, then they are in another relationship within a few weeks and are in love again - this is why I think people get lust and love mixed up!). Love doesn't work like that for me (because usually if I love someone and we split up, it takes me agggggeeeessss to get over them, can't just move on easily and just fall for another guy). Its quite a big deal for me to say "I love you".
Its a very scary feeling tbh, love. It scares me. If I'm love with someone, it means they can completely break my heart. It almost makes me scared to ever go into a relationship again. I think its going to take alot for me to say "I love you" again
I've thought I've loved ex girlfriends of mine that I haven't been with for very long at all because they're new and exciting and I can't stop thinking about them, but I realise now that I didn't. I have experienced love once though with my first serious girlfriend who I was with for 2 years, but even then it took me about 5 months to know.
If I'd been with somebody for about six weeks and she said it, then I'd probably just smile, go "awww", have a kiss and keep doing whatever we were doing. I can tell quite early on if I'm with somebody that I could potentially see myself loving, although it's good to keep that to myself till a few months in at least.
I'm a bit of a dreamer and sometimes get carried away with the whole romance thing quite early on even though I'm never the one to use the L word first. Looking back, most of the time it's just been puppy love which is why I probably need somebody with their head screwed on, rather than somebody who's as away with the fairies as me
She was 30 at the time.
She fancied me. She was nice, we flirted and stuff. Then I asked her out. We spent time together holding hands and kissing and such it was all nice.
First time she came round my house... we went upstairs to have a cuddle and a kiss. (first time I touched a breast! woo ) and then we were hugging and she said 'I love you'.
I froze and didn't know what to say. We were walking back to college and it was silent, and I said I couldn't say it back without knowing for sure, but I liked her a lot. Anyway, I don't know whether it was because of this or because one of my best friends was seriously obsessed with her (you know how it is when you're young ), but I ended up splitting up with her afterwards.
You know the annoying thing in retrospect? I did really like her, and when I became single this year I was going to see if she wanted to go on a date but she's got a new boyfriend . Oh well, we all make mistakes and learn from them. But we'd only been going out a week before she told me!! I was her first kiss too
If the situation did arise, i would just explain that right now i don't feel the same way but when i do i will tell them straight away.
I would never say "I love you" without meaning it.
I have a knack for picking up these type of woman, I'd love a normal woman that doesn't have more issues than Beano.