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with someone before having sex with them?
I'm just wondering what people would consider as being 'sluty' etc. or if some just have sex straight away in the relationship and build up the emotional side later etc?.
your views?
I'm just wondering what people would consider as being 'sluty' etc. or if some just have sex straight away in the relationship and build up the emotional side later etc?.
your views?
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they always act as if everyone sleeps with them straight away and they expect that but im not so sure...
As for being "slutty". If I decided to sleep with a bloke after knowing him for 35 minutes and he turned around called me anything to that effect then I'd have to tell him to take a long, hard look in the mirror at the hypocritical face staring back (and seriously resist the urge to knock seven shades of shit out of him). In terms of other people's views, I don't care about what anyone's opinion is other than my own and - possibly - the person I've been swapping my bodily fluids with. Neither should you :thumb:
If they want to sleep with you and you put out, why would they disrespect you then?
if you are dating a person, and you both feel like it, you can have sex at the 3rd date without any problem.
but I am a man and I would sleep with a lot... immediatelly :P So I am not your best advisor.
I read somewhere that woman know after an average of 5-10 minutes of knowing/conversing etc. a guy if they want to sleep with that person. confirm/deny?
Sleeping with someone on the first date does not make a person a slut. Do be cautious though, there are people out there who will change their perspective on a person if they want to have sex with them on a first date. As briggi said, it's a hypocritical attitude to have considering they're doing exactly the same thing.
Good for you :rolleyes:
i know for me i know if i want to sleep with a guy within minutes of knowing him but the bigger question is how long to wait although that probably isnt the case in all girls
Most of my encounters early on have been with casual partners, so most often, after sex I'd want them out of my hair. My ex [this is a guy who didn't treat me very well] after sex pretty much lost interest. My boyfriend didn't lose interest at all, we'd still go out on dates, meet up, have dinner, go to parties etc.
I would I say I probably do. Doesn't mean I will do though, I just know after so long if I would or wouldn't.
With the boyfriend, I knew within half an hour - but we still didn't get together for 8 months and then we waited 2 months after this!
My last bf, i waited a month to sleep with because i wasn't that comfortable talking about things like that... but my new fella, i've known for about 3 years, and we've always joked about/talked about that sort of thing, and within about 3 hours of actually deciding to go out with each other, meeting up and him coming round for 'tea' we slept together, have been together for 3 weeks now, and a lot longer if i have it my way
Pretty soon I guess, but it also shows you fancy the pants off each other which is surely a good way to start a relationship.
You busy tonight?
Excuse me for being slutty!
I don't really care anymore... I used to want the girl to be the girl I'd be with for the rest of my life and so make sure it was the right one. But now I suppose any hole is a goal...
i'm sure your mother would be very proud.
i've had sex with people i haven't gone out with, so what?
Hah, I used to do the whole roses, respect the girl so much routine, but after quite a difficult break up it's difficult to commit to a girl with my feelings, so it's more of a mutual agreement to do things with each other
Bottom line: I used to think it mattered but then someone I tried to respect a lot hurt me so I don't see why I should make so much effort if they can turn round and do that
I'm sorry but I just can't stop laughing at that comment.
Since then though it's never really been longer than 2 weeks, but I've only ever slept with one person that I didn't even know the name of and that was on a very, very drunk rugby tour to Ireland...
Personally Ive gotno problem sleeping with someone quickly if I really like them, but then im fussy who I date in the frst place.
just make sure you understand their perspective before you do anything. misunderstandings are what create problems in my opinion.
It's been nearly a year, two months, one/two weeks, and about 5 hours before now.
I felt most comfortable with the one/two weeks, but that's cause both happened naturally *shrug*.
ETA: the two weeks one would have been a lot sooner were it not for time of the month problems